Post # 1
We are not TTC. We do not have a specific timeline right now, but at the very least we won’t be until spring. I am on (a fairly difficult to screw up) birth control right now. However, I was just thinking earlier today that I haven’t had any cramps yet, which I usually get by this point in my cycle, and thought “hey maybe my birth control failed, that would be such a great way to avoid having to make any TTC decisions!” Of course now I have cramps and all is normal, except I feel a bit disappointed-that my birth control is working!
Maybe I can blame it on the astonishing number of births on my facebook newsfeed this weekend (seriously, is it a full moon or something?) Or else I am just crazy. Anyone else?
(NB: we are at a point where an unexpected pregnancy would be fine-it would change a few plans, but nothing we can’t handle. I am having trouble wrapping my mind around the idea of being pregnant, which just sounds…unpleasant. I love the idea of a child from birth onward, just not the pregnancy part! It is hard for me to make plans for something I don’t want, even though it is the means to an end that I’m sure will be worth it.)
Post # 3
You’re not crazy– I felt the same way! I went off hormonal birth control and was charting (sort of) for the past year. We were planning to maybe TTC next fall. There were a thousand reasons we were not ready to TTC. Not the least of which was I was just terrified of the whole thing and particularly the actually making a decision “yes we DEFINITELY want this, let’s do it.”
And yet I had a time or two where my period was late and I took a test and even though it was negative I did have that thought during the wait that…. man it would be nice if it happened like this and I never had to decide!
And then… it did! lol. I wound up pregnant unexpectedly and it’s sort of awesome. I never had to decide. I never have to wonder if I made a bad decision. It just happened and we get to believe that it is the exact right time because the universe obviously wanted it to happen right now.
Post # 4
@fallingleaves: Take your time, really. And I would just be like, “Oh, we will try in the spring, April maybe.” Then go off your bc and don’t think about it. Honestly, pregnancy is a scary thing until you are experiencing it. Then it is a whole different kind of scary, but a good scary, if that makes sense. Your fears really get cast aside at your u/s and when you have that light bulbs monment that everything is ok.
Just because I wanted a child doesn’t mean I have been excited this whole pregnancy. A few eeks in I waslike, “OMG I can’t do this.” Then I’d be like, “This is so great.” Then I go back to feeling scared. All normal emotions.
Just make sure you are as ready as you can be for a child. If you can’t find a reason to wait (a good reason) then go for it. We didn’t have a good reason to wait for October so we started early and by July we had out BFP 🙂
Post # 5
I just went through the exact same thing and thought I was making myself crazy. I’m also on Birth Control but never get a period on it. This time around though, I just felt so awful and nauseous and crampy that I just “knew” somthing was different. I looked into when I would have been ovulating and all (right on the honeymoon) so I had myself sooo positive I was pregnant. I was freaking out because the timing would have been less than ideal(just married, putting the house up for sale next spring, moving, etc.) Yeah, no. Took the test and was not pregnant. I thought I was losing my sanity. Honestly, as much as I wanted it to be negative…I was really, really disappointed. DH told me he was disappointed to which made it that much worse.
DH said the same thing you did to me- If it HAD failed, it would have been a relief because we wouldn’t have had to worry about making the decision to TTC (and then worry if we made the right decision or not). We decided now that once my birth control runs out in January I will go off of it. We won’t be “trying” but we won’t be preventing either.
Post # 6
@CorgiTales: Glad I’m not the only one! Congratulations, I’m glad everything has worked out so well!
@megz06: Thanks, I do think I will need to just stop BC and see how it goes for awhile without obsessing. Otherwise I don’t think I would focus on anything else! It is odd to be at a place where there are no big reasons not to-a few little reasons but it would be a welcome surprise, not a bad one.
@BCPDmrs: That’s exciting that your experience helped you decide when to stop BC!
I love being able to get opinions here from different perspectives, I love my friends dearly but they either already have children (and had the timing planned since they were children temselves) or are single and not considering it right now, so they can’t quite relate to me for now!