Post # 1
FI’s car got broken into over the weekend. It sucks a lot. Some jerk just saw a green Prius with a California plate (out of state) and decided to smash windows in our car as well as like, 6 other cars all in one fell swoop. In the process, they also stole a GPS, mini iPod and cell phone charging cable. I’ve NEVER believed in leaving things in the car because we live in Baltimore and it’s a big city and things happen. I didn’t say anything, though, because he has this “silly pride” and he really doesn’t like people pushing him around…
Last night I was in a really long meeting and asked Fiance to get the Prius fixed while he had hours of free time. He also had ample time ALL DAY because he doesn’t work and had no class today (we’re both pharmacy students). Does he do this? No. Now, all of a sudden we’re expecting a thunderstorm and he’s all in a tizzy because he doesn’t want the inside of the Prius getting wet. He also decided it was appropriate to be whiny about the electronics being stolen. I really want to (gently) smack him over the head and say well, if you had fixed the car in a timely manner, maybe you wouldn’t have to worry about this, and if maybe you hadn’t been silly about keeping things in the car, you wouldn’t be without your electronics.
This is irrational, and I have bit my tongue, I promise, I really wish I didn’t feel this way…
Post # 3
@colli459: No reason to feel like a horrible person because you’re frustrated with him. I’ve felt like this with Fiance as well. I was so mad at him the other day because he promised me he’d take care of the laundry. Well, I walked in after working 12 hour shift at night to see the washer still filled with wet clothes. I wanted to throw them on him while he was sleeping. Hahaha. FI feels the same way about me sometimes as well. We’re only human! Just as long as you never turn to real violence, there really is no harm.
Post # 4
If you end up saying anything, try to keep it focused on the thing he can control – fixing the car.
I agree with you on the concept of not leaving things in your car, but the theft responsibility ultimately lies with the criminal instead of your guy. Don’t get on his case for the actions of a criminal.
I have a little sympathy with him because I’ve had to deal with this kind of thing after an accident. I had all the time in the world to get the car into the shop, but I chose to wait to get an investigator from the insurance company out first so the payment process would (in theory) be a little smoother. Yeah, of course it started to rain. My car was rocking quite the creative garbage bag rear door for a couple of days.
Post # 5
🙂 If you are a horrible person for thinking that, so am I.
I honestly am so unsympathetic when people’s issues are their own fault. It’s something I’m working on. It’s just hard when you can see the simple solution. If you don’t want _____ don’t do _______.
Sorry about your car by the way.At least something super valuable wasn’t stolen?
Post # 7
you have so much more restraint than I do. I would have said everything you’re thinking. Hopefully this will be a wakeup call for him. Good luck!
Post # 8
@Rouquine: Hahahaha. Fortunately, Fiance is really amazing this way. We’re both students, but I am trying to work to help us out financially, and he’ll often make sure the laundry is done and apt is vaccummed while I’m gone. I’m so so so thankful to him for all the same things. And no, no actual violence. Once I had a roommate that got so irritated with another roommate that he put her dirty dishes in her bed…
@LibertyBelle: You’re right. And, I promise, I kept my actual mouth shut. My fingers, not so much…
@Ashenstar: Nothing really valuable was taken. They left the car registration and insurance info, fortunately, as well as the note from his mom wishing us well. Oh, and the lint roller… Very important that they left the lint roller 🙂
Thank you all for making me feel better, I really appreciate it.
Post # 9
Oh hunny, I’d totally feel the same way 🙂
Like @MilksMom says, Men 😛
Post # 10
@msfahrenheit: Thank you so much! I really appreciate knowing that I’m not the only one that would have this particular reaction. Yay for learning to love flaws? Yes?