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    MsMamaBear       Atlanta

    I feel bad.

    My SO and I were talking about our gifts we got each other. Since he has to work, he is officially pissed and said we can't be with your family that day, we might as well tell our gifts.

    I told him, after he goaded me and complained because he wanted to know. Give him a hint. What color is it? Can men and women use it? *goes to pick it up and shake it* Tell him already! (Sound like anything WE ladies can relate to?)

    So I broke down and told him what it was.

    He told my gift was this Google powered touch hipad thing. I did really want a ring, of course, but I will like this thing. He thinks I hate it. I don't. I just wanted something else, especially when he told me I'd like it and I said I wanted it. He just picked this out of the air.

    I'm not ungrateful. I'll enjoy using it at work and going laces and snapping pictures and uloading them my blog and all....I just wished for a ring. I'm not really a tech gal...

    No matter how much you don't get your hopes u, not matter how ugly you keep your nails, you still can't help but secretly hope for it. :(

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Oh it's so tough, especially when they say they are giving you something you want and then it's something else completely!  Hang in there!

     
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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    How exactly are you a jerk? :)

    We all get gifts we totally don't love, it's harder when we're expecting a ring. One Christmas my husband got me this necklace- it was a heart with diamonds. Don't get me wrong- it was nice but totally not my style- not to mention I was expecting a ring. I didn't have the heart to tell him I didn't care for it.

      It sounds like your boyfriend was already in a bit of a sour mood *hugs* he'll get over it :)

     
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    MsMamaBear       Atlanta

    Yeah, it is. Thanks!

     
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    phoenix718       MA

    ::HUGS::

    I feel ya.  I'm a little nervous about my gift as well as I haven't explicity given him any ideas and he interestingly enough, hasn't asked either.  I'm sure he'll do a great job, and YES, IT'S THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS, but I'm kinda hoping he doesn't just pick up something that I said I needed in passing, like a new toaster or something.  LOL.  We'll have the rest of our lives ahead of us to get eachother more practical gifts- I don't feel like the heartfelt and personal ones have run out yet. 

     
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    ItalianLady    September 4, 2010  

    Awwww, hon

    How are you a jerk? Because you wanted a ring and got a tech toy? That is totally understandable !

     
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    MsMamaBear       Atlanta

    LOL. I'm glad y'all don't think I'm a jerk either! I have no idea where he got the idea to get me that! Maybe because I have a nook? I don't know! He said he's going to get me something else, which I said was unnecessary, but he is insisting.

    maureen9004- I'm glad your husband never knew! I think my face showed it when he showed me the video on youtube about what it does. lol He was in a bad mood though. I was too, heck.LOL

    phoenix718- Or pick u something he would like, in other words, what happened here.LOL Good luck!

     

     
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    tobin      

    You're not a jerk.

    Let him catch you reading up about it, and come up with cool ideas on how you can use it.  Just to make him feel better. Sit there reading the paper and go "oh wow, i could just search the newspaper when I get my hipad"... stuff like that ;)

     
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    Isilme       Texas

    Don't feel so bad - it's hard to like ANY gift when you're hoping for an e-ring.  I know better after all this time and the past year's engagement storm and his brother getting engaged in October to even allow myself to THINK about a ring, but still, I look anyway in my stocking or under the tree to see if having an official holiday makes it easier for him to go ahead and ask that question, only to be let down thanks to my own hopes.

    I'm hoping my BF didn't go ahead and get me a Kindle, as much as I would have liked it a while back, I'm going to get myself a smart phone in Feburary that can run the program, so it'd be neat, but kinda a waste for something that exspensive.  My BF is abd about getting excited about getting me... books... for holidays.  I love books, and devour them (figuratively), but it's a gift I'd expect from like, his mom, not him.   I want fairly stereotypical BF-GF gift from him, like jewelry or slinky things.  :(  They're not even "sexy" books.  I read them anyway, and enjoy them, but since I read so quickly it's not something I can enjoy more than every so often, assuming it's good.  Bleh.

     
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    MsMamaBear       Atlanta

    He knows I have a blog, so I was telling him I could take ictures of things and uload them right then. Maybe that will work, but he said he might take it back and get me something I want. (not THAT I'm sure.lol)

    It is hard to get excited when you really want something. :( I'm a book person too. I hate when they get us things we need, instead of wants. I was thinking that pad wasn't a typical coule gift too.LOL

     
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    desertgirl    March 24, 2012   Phoenix

    You're not a jerk!!!  Every waiting girl goes through the same thing!!  I'm sure he realizes why you are a little disappointed. Plus he was not in a good mood so that didn't help.  I know I'm us for some major disappointments too even though I tell my self not to hope.  It's such a crazy cycle!  Don't worry we are all in the same boat whether it sinks or not.

     
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    ADBK2011    October 1, 2011   Atlanta

    Yea, since you have already talked about marriage. I'm sure he must have some idea why you were slightly disappointed.

     
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    PopRox    September 17, 2011  

    Very understandable! You are not a jerk, just someone with a dream! Chin up, your time will come.

     
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    yaneres      

    I agree, what you did was not a jerk move. It's understandable!

     

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