I am about to flip out. Am I wrong here?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

She sounds like a complete psycho nutball. Just relax, breathe, and look forward to your otherwise-wonderful and very soon wedding!!

Post # 4
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2630 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BriansBride:  Wow. You’re handing the situation way more maturely than I would be able to. I wish I could help you see it from her side, but I’m not that fluent in batshit crazy. Honestly, I think it’s time to just cut your losses with her and move forward. Let her know that you’re sorry that she doesn’t seem to want her kids to be part of the wedding but that you’re still looking forward to seeing them. There’s no point in engaging with her because she seems hell bent on creating drama for drama’s sake. You have enough to deal with in these last few weeks (squee!!). 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BriansBride:  Oh my I hope you weren’t thinking I thought YOU were batshit crazy!! Quite the opposite. You have no reason to apologize. I think you did a very good thing venting here rather than unleashing it on your FSIL and creating a situation with his family. 

Post # 7
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808 posts
Busy bee

@BriansBride:  OMG your FSIL sounds like a complete witch. You’ve handled her ridiculous behaviour much more gracefully than I could’ve. Maybe cut communication down to a minimum and if it ends up that her kids aren’t in the wedding because she didn’t tell you their sizes etc then so be it. That said, I can imagine someone like her pitching a fit about that too and talking about it forever so maybe that’s not so helpful either. Definitely be more firm about her taking stuff back to get the right sizes for her kids though – not your job!

Post # 8
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1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You are not over-reacting, she sounds difficult and borderline crazy. And yes, parents are usually the ones who deal with things like measuring their kids and dressing them on someone else’s wedding day.

Post # 9
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9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

oh my days!!! she is down right crazy and RUDE! You are not in the wrong in ANY of it, she’s just being stroppy and distrubtive…

do you think she’s Jealous? Is she really unhappy and taking it out on you? Is she really close to your FI before you came along and the wedding? I know this doesn’t excuse her actions-far from it…just trying to see why she’s acting so messed up.

Just ignore her and concerntrate on your wedding (yay!) it’s great that your FI is being so supportive as well 🙂

 

Post # 10
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589 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow, that girl sounds cray cray! You’re being way to nice to her. Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself or the other person will just keep treating you the same way. I think unfortunately a lot of people will treat you as badly as you allow them to.

Post # 11
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1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, mother and sister are nuts, and the sister is REALLY out of control.  You have gone over and above trying to please her.  TBH, if it was me, I would have given up long before.  I’m so sorry you’re going through this.  Even worry-free planning can be stressful, let alone dealing with this mess.  Take care and try to enjoy this last bit of time before your big day!

Post # 12
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@BriansBride:  You want help seeing it from her side? Ok i’ll give it a go.This is her side

Its all about me,ME ME ME ME MEEEEEEEEEEEE! I want to run your wedding,how DARE you not let me pick the colour scheme,how dare you. I want you to run after me,left right and centre.If you are not willing to run around after me and my kids,i shall force you to.Because im a batshit crazy jealous controlling psycho nuts freak

Lol. OP i applaud you for not having gone nuts on the woman.If it were me id keep her well and truly out of the loop from now on.You have more than tried but she is doing her best to sabatage your attempts.If she asks a direct question id probably answer her but other than that id continue planning my wedding the way i want it. If it means losing out on her kids being in the wedding party,so be it. 

Post # 13
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m usually the one to keep quiet and I usually advise to keep the peace, but I would have lost it a long time ago. Good luck, she sounds absolutely AWFUL. 

Post # 14
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I would have cut her out of all wedding relating planning as soon as she didn’t turn up to the venue. That does not bode well for other things you will include her in. You shouldn’t have guessed at her kids sizes, either. I think the ball is in her court now. I wouldn’t think any more about her or her kids being involved unless she makes a move in helping you get their stuff and promises to get them ready on the day. 

Post # 15
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7075 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

She sounds like a nut job. Honestly I would just assume her kids are not going to be in the wedding and cut your losses. The last thing I’d want to be doing on my wedding day is tending to someone else’s kid.

Post # 16
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Her kids can wear jeans, and she can look like an idiot throwing a tantrum over it.

Or she can just pretend she didn’t know what day your wedding was and skip it, which might happen at this rate.

Honestly? I would have a big, long talk with FI about cutting FSIL and FMIL out of your lives (at least out of your everyday lives) after the wedding – they sound like TOXIC people and that will only put a strain on your marriage.

Anyway, sorry your FSIL is such a bitch and I hope you are able to grow a tougher skin with her.

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