(Closed) I am about to give up and have to wait!!! argh soo unfair

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Do you think he will soon or just teasing me?
    Yes definitely teasing you! : (2 votes)
    7 %
    No he has it all planned out! : (5 votes)
    18 %
    Need to chill out and think about other things!! : (21 votes)
    75 %
  • Post # 3
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    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    It’ll happen when he wants it to…I feel like if you keep asking that will probably just postpone it more and more. Good luck!

    Post # 4
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    2117 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    The more you pester, the longer it’ll take 🙂

    Post # 5
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    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Just keep yourself busy and try not to bring up engagement.  A lot of bees have said their FIs postponed popping the question because they were tired of getting asked about when it will happen.

    He has the ring, you know it’ll happen soon enough!  *hugs*  I know it’s rough, but hang in there!

    Post # 6
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    1417 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Aw, Just relax! He has the ring! That’s a HUGE and IMO the BIGGEST step!! Now you just get your butt in shape and wait for it LOL. Easier said than done! LOL

     Good luck!!

    Post # 7
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    3485 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    My FI finally explained it to me in a way that made sense to me after I’d been bugging him about a proposal for almost a year.  He said (what I thought was theoretical at the time) that IF he was getting ready to propose, every time I brought it up, it would postpone the process, because for him, he didn’t want it to seem like he was only proposing to shut me up, or because I was “making” him do it.  So, whenever I said something about it, even if he had a plan in motion, he’s put the brakes on everything because he didn’t want his proposal to seem like a reaction to something I’d said. 

    I found out a few months later (after I learned to keep my mouth shut!!!) that he has bought the ring several months before, and was just waiting for the right time, and every time I brought up anything wedding/engagement/proposal related, he would wait a bit longer because he wanted it to be a surprise and completely independant of everything I had said.  

     

    So, you know he has the ring– you know the proposal is coming– leave the poor boy alone and let him plan it out!!!

    Post # 8
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    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    You need to stop bugging him, the more you bug the longer it will take. Let him do it in his time, maybe you are ruining this moment for him, have you thought of that?????….. maybe he wants to surprise you at some point but cant because youre always on him. Give the man some room……

    Post # 9
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    1128 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I agree with PP, just let it go! The more you bug him the less likely want he is going to want to do it. He is probably waiting for you to least expect it, but if you keep bringing it up, it won’t happen.

    Post # 10
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    598 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I hate to say this, but your being unfair to your SO! 

    You really need to relax and stay off the bee for awhile if it perpetuates your obsession with engagement. Get on the Mr Bees plan for July! 

    Best of luck to you, I know this waiting makes us CRAZY! 🙁 

     

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