(Closed) I am BM and freaking out…Long Sorry:-/

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

WOW! You sound like a great bridesmaid, most bridesmaid (that I have read about on here) wait and put the bride off due to fear of discussing finances with her.

IMO, you should discuss with her your price point, how much you can spend on a dress. Remember, you are only trying on dresses right now, and maybe you could try to stear the other BMs to a lower price point. Maybe you could suggest a couple other stores to go look at that have other suggestions of dresses.

I hope this helps, and keep us posted 🙂

Post # 4
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would call her and talk about your concerns before you go dress shopping.  They’re perfectly valid and the bride should be thinking about people’s budgets.

If this is a good friend, she’ll understand and work around it. 

Post # 5
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010


Explain your financial situation. I am sure she will be happy you came to her and were honest. And I am sure she would rather have you in her wedding party than an expensive Bridesmaid or Best Man dress.

Post # 6
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Agreed with the PPs. I know finances are hard to talk about, but she should also be willing to think about how the wedding affects everyone else too. Hopefully she will?

Or at the very least, maybe she could offer to pick up the tab for half the dress if you’re going to be one of the people doing lots of handmade things. Sounds like you’ll be putting lots of time and effort into helping her, so hopefully she takes that into consideration.

Good luck!

Post # 7
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The PP”s have it bang on, let her know what’s going on, I’m sure she’ll be able to guide everyone into a dress that will fit everyone’s budget.

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