Post # 1
I am very proud of myself this morning! I spoke up and was honest with my mom and sister about my feelings towards having a bridal shower. Honestly became my policy yesterday and we cancelled the bridal shower… And I havn’t felt this peaceful since before the planning started.
My sole goal in my wedding planning has been to create a day which truly displays the loving relationship we have created, with as little fanfare as possible. Lucky for me I have a wonderful sister and mother who want nothing more than for me to be happy with the progress of my wedding.
Did anyone else have a moment of “bridal empowerment”? A moment when you took back the reign of your wedding, and everything was under control once more?
Post # 3
Hi five for bridal empowerment!
Post # 5
Nah. Mine was the opposite.
Realizing that it was about more than me, that the shower was important to my FMIL and to just let it go.
His family doesn’t feel like it’s a wedding without a shower and so I let her win on this one.
She wasn’t pushy or insistant. That helped the cause a bit.
I’m never upsetting anyone when I do say no, maybe a little disappointment, but nothing they carry with them.
But yay for you!
Weird how these things are so different for everyone?
Letting go some was freeing for me and taking back control was freeing for you.
Post # 6
Good on you!
A friend of mine and her FH were so fed up with all the fighting between the future MILs about the wedding arrangements, food, clothes, flowers, parties, etc, they eloped one weekend.
They told the families about it when they got back.
The MILs were furious for a couple of months and didn’t speak to them but they calmed down.
My friend and her DH were fine with that – they needed a break.
The FILs, BILs and SILs were grateful – they were sick of the fighting, too.
Both families get along just fine now.