(Closed) I am Bridezilla, hear me rawr?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Honestly… I think it’s inevitable that every bride gets called a Bridezilla at some point, whether the shoe fits or not. It’s unfortunate but true.

Just let it roll off your back.

Post # 4
9627 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just ignore him, he was probably just joking.  Some guys, even dads, can be really dumb and say dumb things.  I’m sure he didn’t mean to hurt your feelings, you don’t seem Bridezilla-like at all!

Post # 5
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Uh yeah, it’s like if you have a single moment where you’re not totally pulled together and la-dee-da people cry “bridezilla!” for the rest of the planning.

Post # 6
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Pfft on people.  I got called a Bridezilla because I was “too calm”.  Yep……  Just keep going – you sound fine!

Post # 7
674 posts
Busy bee

It very well may be the case that they just all assume they are supposed to defer to you for everything based on what they have experienced with other brides or seen on tv. So the fact that you’re not asking much of them may be what’s throwing them off. Now, is it fair that they insult you over their discomfort with not being ordered around? No, but I just thought I’d put it out there that it may have nothing to do with anything you can control.

Post # 8
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

“I do not want convicts at my wedding stealing things and making scenes.” I’m sorry but I lol at that statement. I had an uncle that fell in to that category.

It sounds like your dad just used a poor choice of words. My dad would, and has, said equally insensitive things to me but he just doesn’t think about what he’s saying. It doesn’t sound like you are being a bridezilla at all. Please don’t take it personally. You are entitled to have opinions and hopefully in time everyone will see how easy going you are being. GL!

Post # 9
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My mom just called me witha similar question about the shower…and had a similar mentality behind it.  Only I called her out on it over the phone straight up.  I asked what she meant by it, she said they just didn’t want to pressure me or stress me out.  I guess so many people have been exposed to bithc brides that they assume all brides get a bit wonky?

I’d let it go, just keep on doing your thing.

Post # 11
2759 posts
Sugar bee

Ugh, I feel you! Every time I make even the tiniest comment about something I want/do not want, my mom calls me a bridezilla and it’s starting to get on my nerves — especially since we’ve barely done any of the real planning yet.

Post # 12
1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

God, this annoyed me when I was planning my wedding. Especially with my mom – whenever she didn’t like something I wanted to do and I stuck to my guns on doing it my way, she started acting like I was being a crazy bridezilla. I really wasn’t. It’s worse with people who have strong opinions about your wedding that you disagree with. Everyone else will see that you’re being normal about it.

And I think in some cases, I think people have bought into the whole “the bride is going to be crazy” thing so much that they walk on eggshells without even needing to. For example, look around on here for threads about brides who asked their BMs to pick their own dresses – so many times, the BMs are afraid to pick it out themselves for fear of “upsetting” the bride, which is ridiculous because she’s the one who told them to pick out what they like.

It sucks that you can’t be a mellow, normal bride without getting treated like you’re an overwrought child who’s about to have a meltdown. So frustrating!

Post # 14
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Pinksapphire:  Omgosh is your family related to mine? I’ve also had everyone from the mother/grandmother of the groom to my friends, mom asking me what they should wear.

I’m trying to keep the costs down for my wedding as well and no matter what I do I either have Mama Griffin or Fiance telling me “That sounds expensive, maybe there’s another option.” Keep in mind we are using my home church for the ceremony and reception (free), tables and linens at the church  (again, free except for cleaning, which is not required, but we will do regardless), my photography was donated as a wedding gift by a friend who owns a business, my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were $125 (total) and I got my wedding dress, rehearsal dinner dress, two pairs of shoes and alterations for more than $300 LESS than my original wedding dress budget.

Buuuuut, I’m being unreasonable and spending too much money and making  this a “La-Tee-Da” affair.Undecided and any time I give an opinion and stick to my guns, I’m being a zilla. Anyway, sorry to run off on my own rant. Long story short I just wanted to say I know where you’re coming from and try to let it roll off your back.


Post # 15
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I can sympathize… I got called a Bridezilla when I was fighting my Maid/Matron of Honor (and sister) and mom about choosing a CHEAPER dress so that it was more reasonable for everyone. Really?! I guess my mistake was saying “well… it is my wedding” (I had a moment, sorry!) so I WILL give them that. But my arguement stands… the dress they thought was better was ONE HUNDRED DOLLARS MORE then the one we had all already agreed on. I’m sorry… it just wasn’t $100 better. LOL.

Point is… I agree with those that say that everyone gets called that at one point or another. At first I felt kind of hurt too… after all… I really felt like I was looking out for their best (financial) interest.

OH WELL! Try to stay up beat 🙂

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