Post # 1
Alright, before you think I have not been looking through all of the boards for the same topic I am currently writing about, I have. However, I would like some advice please.
My wedding is next summer and I began looking for my dress early because I will be going through my last year of school this coming year and will have virtually no time to do anything. I tried on many different dresses but none of them really fit right and i was getting really worried about not being about to find THE dress. I thought I had found it a couple of times, but when I really thought about it, they just didn’t feel right. After a couple months of bridal stores and tedious appointments with family and friends, I decided to go shopping on my own. It was a random day and I was waiting for my FI to get off of work when I decided I’d pop into a bridal store. After a couple of dresses I tried this particular dress on and really fell in love with it. Impusively, I bought it that day.
Now I have looked at it and tried it on a couple of times, but I feel like I made the wrong decision. I knew the dress I wanted, but I feel like I settled and since it is a wedding gift from my sister, I cannot just return the dress, but I’m not happy with it either. So the issue is, do I look for another dress and sell the old one, or keep the one I have and stay unhappy with it? I don’t want to be impulsive again and buy another dress, and I also don’t want to hear from my family about how wrong I was for thinking it was the dress I wanted in the first place (as they will unmercifully berate me about getting the dress). However, it is also my wedding, and I know I will not be happy with this current dress. What should I do? I don’t have alot of money to buy another one on my own.
I guess I am very perplexed as to what I should do, and overwhelmed with many other things and need advice from fellow brides. Please give feedback. I am eleven months away from my wedding so I can wait for posts for a bit, but please help!
Post # 3
@iluvbabo: can you talk to your siter and go back and try on the same dress again (I mean a sample). Is your one being altered or do you have it at home?
Post # 4
Do you have any pictures to show us? Although I suppose if you’re aainst it completely our opinions might not change your mind :/
Post # 5
i would like to see a pic too. I cannot help thinking that there must have been a reason you brought that dress.
Sometimes I have second thoughts about my dress too. Its too long to wait for a girl really especially if you have to buy a dress more then six months from the event. I often change my mind about heaps of clothes i have brought so why would a wedding dress be any different.
Post # 6
I agree with the other posters, we need to see a pic of YOU in the dress… then we will be better able to give out advice. 🙂
How many dresses did you try on? The good news is, its still so early, you can sell it and perhaps get a new one if you are not happy with it.
Keep your chin up! There is still a long way to go.
Post # 7
I’m having a similar situation but with my photographer. I’ve already booked him and put down a deposit, but I’m pretty sure I’d rather have someone else. But rather than regret that I’ve already put down a deposit, I just decided that I can’t get back that money and I have to decide what photographer I want now. So from this point forward, if I choose my current photographer, it will cost $1500. Then I can compare the cost of a different photographer to that amount.
You can apply the same logic to your dress (except you’re in a better situation, because you can probably get some money back!). Assume that you’re starting from scratch and look for a new dress. Yes, if you hadn’t bought the other dress, you might have a little more money to spend. But if you honestly can’t get the money back, then worrying about it won’t solve anything. (Like they say, there’s no use crying over spilled milk!) 🙂
I would say, go back out there and try on dresses. Don’t buy anything until you’ve tried on the dress at least two separate times. For example, I tried on my dress on a Friday. I loved it, but I wanted to make sure. So I went home, thought about it for a day, then I went back on a Sunday and still loved it. (I should say, I did this same strategy with a different dress beforehand, and when I went back to try it on, I didn’t buy it! It just wasn’t as wonderful as I had remembered it.)
Post # 8
I’d love to see a picture as well. I say this in the nicest way possible, but it sounds like you are generally indecisive. You had a hard time choosing a dress but you said you fell in love with this one. But now you’re changing your mind. Maybe it’s just a case of you needing to try the dress on again and fall in love with it all over again?
Post # 9
Great advice everyone! I’ll put up a pic of the dress soon, because I do want opinions on it. I do actually have the dress at home and probably wont do alterations for awhile(if i stay with this dress), but when I tried it on again a week ago, I still felt the same, kind of just blah. @Ronneykay, before this I had tried on about 50 dresses but none really felt right.
One bit I left out, I had picked out a dress about six months ago that I really loved in a magazine, but every time I went into the store, they did not have my size. I didn’t want to order online because, honestly, what looks good on paper doesnt always look good on person. However, today I went to the same store and they had my size for the first time, so I tried the dress on and it is beautiful, just what I imagined. Now, I feel certain that I should change my dress, but I’m giving it about a month to think really thoroughly about it(I have the time, why not utilize it), and also to try my current dress on again just to be sure. Impulsiveness is last on my list now. Either way, I will post a picture of both dresses soon so you all have some idea of what you are looking at. Thanks everyone for the advice too!
Post # 10
I feel your pain! I also jumped the gun and bought a dress I didn’t love. Luckily, I was able to convince the store to let me exchange it and pay the difference on another (more expensive) one that I fell in love with. Are your dresses from the same store? Would an exchange be a possibility?
Otherwise, I’d put the dress up on one of the used dresses sites and do whatever you have to to get the one you love. As far as your family goes, don’t let them get to you if they think you’re being silly. Just explain how you feel to them – they’ll want you to be happy.
Post # 11
I was impuslive and bought my dress because I saw it cheap from another bride. I had already tried it on and I knew it fit but it was not “the dress.” I feel you. The good news is that if you stop looking for more dresses, you let it sink in and you try it on again pinned to fit you correctly you may fall in love with it. It’s still not my dream dress but it sure does look good for the price I paid and it fits me well. I’m not overly romantic about a dress because it is, after all, just a dress.
Post # 12
If you love that other dress and think it is beautiful but don’t like the one you have why would you wait? Okay, try on the other dress another time, bring a friend, but sell the other dress. No point in waiting too long.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Perhaps there is more to it than constantly doubting your choice of dress? Seems like most brides find a dress by 1-2 appointments.
Post # 14
Has anyone ever put 50% down on a dress and change their mind and just not pick up the dress?
Post # 15
@archie2oliver: YES! I worked at David’s Bridal and we had a fair number of dresses that were 100% paid in full that people never picked up. I think we kept them a year beyond the wedding date and then the items were donated…but the bride always got many, many calls before that happened.
Post # 16
Yes, pic please! But then.. Keep trying on more dresses! I’m a huge fan of that, but it totally goes against the grain. I bought 3 dresses!!! Lol. I hated my first one, but I will be wearing my other two and I am thrilled about them! If I stuck with my first dress that I knew was wrong for me, I’d be having a breakdown right now!