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My FH and I always have one full day of non-wedding stuff. We go out and have a date day. We will veg-out in front of the TV or go to the movies, shopping, anything but wedding stuff. It's getting harder to do now that I'm a month away, but it has kept me from driving him or me nuts.
I TOTALLY understand! I think the reason its so easy to become obsessed with the planning is because its fun and its something most people want to do! I've only begun planning this month and ive already seen an effect in my grades....
But we can do this together! I'm thinking of making a limit for myself, like... wedding planning can only be done on the weekends (unless, of coarse, a vendor calls you!) Or, maybe setting aside only 1 hour a day to get "wedding" related things off your checklist.
I guess I should get back to studying now...
I had to keep myself in check and remember that not everyone was as into my wedding as I was- including my FI.
Just make sure when you speak to friends and family that you make sure to ask them about their lives- not just ramble on about yours!
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Wow. I understand totally. When I get the ring (we already know we're getting married this year) I will probably do a 2 week swoon. Yea, that's what I predict. lol!
Then I'll get back to work!
You take schedule breaks and commit to not talking about or doing any wedding planning things (you will never stop thinking about it...)
you have to make time to step away from it or it will consumer your life...but it is a blast and so much fun, so relish it and spend time on weddingbee to get your fix and give your fiance a little break!
If you feel like it's negatively affecting your life, then follow the above advice. But, I think: JUST GO FOR IT! Get obsessed, look at every picture, check Weddingbee a million times a day (so often that you find yourself saying "I saw this on Weddingbee" at least twice a day). There will come a time when you naturally get sick of it and you'll back off a little. But this is your only wedding and you should be a little obsessed because it's fun and when else will you be able to try so many craft projects anyway?
So long as you're monitoring yourself so that it's not the only thing you ever talk about with your friends and your work or school isn't suffering, have fun with it.
It can definitely take over your life. I try to just take some time away from all of it. Like if we go away for the weekend, we just don't talk about it. If we're out at dinner, we'll sometimes talk about everything OTHER than our wedding plans. Of course, we have the flip side, too, when we DO talk about our plans. I just think that you have to strive for some wedding-free time, so that it doesn't consume you.
Haha, I hear you. My mom and I joke that surely there were things we USED to talk about...right?! And what are we going to talk about when the wedding is over?!
I don't think you should kill yourself over this... wedding planning is fun and you are enjoying it, so don't worry! I try not to talk about the wedding too much with friends, even though it's hard sometimes, I just don't because I know they don't care nearly as much as I do. I limit it to the people who I know really care- mostly my mom, dad occasinoally, Fi most of the time (though not all!), and, well.... you guys!! My advice would be to keep coming on wedding bee a lot to get all that "wedding talk" out of you, and try to focus on the present when you're with your family or friends, rather than the wedding.
But most of all.. it (hopefully) only happens once... so just enjoy it!!
i'm feeling you.. except i dont talk about it to anyone.. i just plan plan plan.. i'm also inlove with weddingbee and am always checking and refreshing in case someone put a new post
Definitely feel you on this one! Weddingbee has been my savior! I can talk about wedding stuff to my heart's content with other lovely ladies who are just as wedding-crazy as I am, then go back to real life and talk about other things. I'm not saying the wedding doesn't come up in conversation rather a lot, but I'm able to talk about other stuff too. Maybe blogging would help too? You could get a lot of that need to tell everyone everything feeling out without actually forcing anyone to listen to it against their will. I think I'm going to be doing that soon. ^_^ Good luck!
thanks...yes I was definitely having a moment...I just didn't realize how it can take over your life! Especially since I definitely was not like this before...I actually was dreading planning...But i'm okay :)...luckily I think I noticed before anyone else did...I think I will forever need a weddingbee "fix" ...but i'm weening myself off looking at wedding stuff every minute slowly but surely 
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But it's so much fun!! I already know I'm going to have withdrawls in April, when everything's over with....
I talk about my wedding all the time, but am cognizant of it and try to not discuss it with friends who might not be that into it. I have one friend who is getting married a week before me and we talk about it all the time - we are good outlets. I usually try to talk to my FI about it in small doses so I dont drive him nuts.
I am obsessed with this website though and need to restrain myself a bit!
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yea!! its so refreshing to hear that i'm not the only one obsessed with all things WEDDING. i've just started planning my wedding ( its 2 years+ away because we want to wait till my FI finishes school ) and its all i think about! i even thought to myself "maybe i could become a wedding planner" after we get married!! haha!
I am so with you! But I begin to focus on one thing...then I check all the WB posts about that one thing (Case in point: rehearsal dinner dresses!!) I google search the whole site for that topic and read EVERY POST!! Yep. Obsessed. But I like it! Keeps me focused and how can I miss anything??
oh you are so funny! Get this - I'm totally obsessed with EVERYTHING wedding and I'm not even engaged or getting married anytime soon!!! I check WB every day, I feel like I'm friends with almost all of you and I'm not even planning a wedding at the moment! SO girl, I hear you and we hear you.
When your wedding has passed, you might possibly feel a strong withdrawal ... we'll be here for you if you do :)
YAY! other obsessed bees glad i'm not alone...I will DEFINITELY have severe withdrawl symptoms post Sept. 4th...and Mightysapphire I do the SAME thing!!! i'll be like "I wonder if i'm really getting a good deal on my photographer?" then i'll go on weddingbee and look at ALL of the posts and comments!...LOL too funny...
What you have to remember is that it is ONE DAY out of your life. Don't build it up so much that the rest of your life...AND RELATIONSHIP...is a let down. I really knew of one girl, a sorority sis of mine from college, that suffered from clinical depression after her wedding was over. It made their relationship hurt too because this lovely girl had no reason to at all be depressed over anything!
This is coming from an encore bride who before had the huge, big, fat, gorgeous wedding..and I'm gonna have an even more elegant yet intimate gorgeous wedding!
Maybe set aside 1 hr a day to deal with wedding stuff..trust me, the world will get tired of hearing about it. I know about that part.
Just speaking from experience. If you build something up so much there is a giant emotional let down afterward, then it is not healthy.
I am the SAME Way! Since the day I got engaged I have been doing research daily! Reseraching for ideas, ways to save $, stories, everything! I am completely Obsessed too!!! I'm 8 months away and I need to calm down! My FI asked me if we could have just one day a week where we don't talk about anything wedding related, and I agree; all this wedding planning/research is making it hard to sleep at night, I literally wake up at night and can't go back to sleep becaue my mind is racing with new ideas I can implement for the wedding, and I keep thinking I'm still 8 months away, how am I going to be when I'm 1 month away!
I think my main thing is I'm very much in a researching for ideas phase, and once I make my final decisions on my theme, look, set-up, etc. I'm hoping my obsession will calm down
@ES123 that is too funny! I find myself saying I saw this on WeddingBee at least two times a day if not more. Sometimes I feel bad emailing my FI at work with silly wedding questions, stuff I know he doesnt care about.
@Roseychicklet I totally agree with you, make sure that you ask other people how their lives are going. I make a conscience effort to start every conversation with one of my friends by asking them something about them.
Does anyone ever worry that your fiance will fall out of love with you because all of a sudden you can't keep up a conversation that is not wedding related? :P
oh WOW @bellnga! I don't think i'm even near that level...but thanks for the word of advice, i'll definitly keep that in mind. My fiance and I have known each other for 9 years (two as really good friends...the other 7 dating) so our relationship is pretty strong and I don't think that it'll falter or i'll have severe let down about us...it's so funny because I never looked forward to wedding planning...i always thought it was a huge waste of money for just a couple of hours...but now that i'm in the thick of it, I enjoy it...I think I was just enjoying it a little too much ...but i've calmed down, as long as I can view everyone's gorgeous plans on wedding bee...i'll be okay!
Ah! Andrea, I COMPLETELY relate. I found this post after searching "wedding obsessed" lol. I'm having problems too...and I work full time! Not a good combination, as I seriously need to actually get some work stuff done.
Let's hope I don't lose my job!
I better send out an email, or file something...
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I keep Weddingbee and my Google Reader open on my desktop all day at work.
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Make sure that you still have something to talk about when it is over. Life goes on and I know it is important but it is still one day.
I know how I am when I get obsessed about things. No matter how many times I tell myself to relax it doesn't work! I try to distract myself or banish these thoughts altogether but my attempts fail every time. I just have to keep things together as much as possible (at least on the outside) while my obsession runs its course!
Which is why Wedding Bee is so great. You've got tons of brides here to chat with, vent to and gush at who are all just as enthusiastic about weddings as you! :)
I'm the same way and i need to stop, because I'm in law school and need to be focusing on school right now! Especially since finals are 1 month away...ever since I got engaged 6 weeks ago I have started neglecting school and just thinking about wedding stuff all the time. I totally feel you. I think a weekend limit sounds like a good idea.
I think I've kept my wedding obsession secret from a lot of friends. My roommates and SO are the only ones who realize how much of my time I actually spend on the internet doing wedding research. I call it "being thorough". I only talk about wedding stuff with friends if they bring it up which is helpful.
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Many of you should know that my Fiance and I got engaged last April. i enjoyed every moment of it without the slightest hint of planning a wedding. Friends would swoon over my ring, talk about how lucky I was to marry the man I was destined to be with, and all that good stuff. I enjoyed every minute of it. People would ask when were the dates, but I always said "in due time"...not really stressing at all because, guess what? i didn't care, I was marrying the man of my dreams. So in Janurary, we finally decided on a date (partially because people REALLY started to hound us about a date) We were to be married in September. We went about sending out STD, telling friends and family, setting up registries, getting a website, checking out vendors, putting down deposits, etc. NOW I AM COMPLETELY OBSESSED WITH WEDDING PLANNING!!!!!!!!!! i think about it all the time, i realize it's all i talk to my friends about ( I read a post yesterday and realized I was obsessive
) I check weddingbee everyday now for ideas and to see how lovely everyones plans are turning out...as well as disasters...sorry :( ...I found myself struggling to keep from telling my fiance about the newest wedding accomplishment I tackled because I know he would rather hear about other things besides logistical wedding stuff. I know because I was once like that too. I don't think i'm a Bridezilla (at least no one has told me that yet) and it really only started in Mid-Janurary (i'm saying that so I can be okay with it 
)...but i want to stop. Not the planning part, just the thinking about it everyday part. We have taken care of almost everything big (officiant, venue, catering, dress, DJ, photographer, videographer, florist, baker even hotel accomodations...I know I work fast...plus I have lots of friends who were MORE than willing to help out) So why am i still obsessing?!?!?!? I just need help getting back to my old self. I'm really a fun person, and funny too. I know I talk about other things...I just can't remember what those things are for some reason...Has any of this happened to you? So i'm looking for some help and advice from fellow bees...how did you come back from the cyclone called wedding planning?