Post # 1
Many of you should know that my Fiance and I got engaged last April. i enjoyed every moment of it without the slightest hint of planning a wedding. Friends would swoon over my ring, talk about how lucky I was to marry the man I was destined to be with, and all that good stuff. I enjoyed every minute of it. People would ask when were the dates, but I always said "in due time"…not really stressing at all because, guess what? i didn’t care, I was marrying the man of my dreams. So in Janurary, we finally decided on a date (partially because people REALLY started to hound us about a date) We were to be married in September. We went about sending out STD, telling friends and family, setting up registries, getting a website, checking out vendors, putting down deposits, etc. NOW I AM COMPLETELY OBSESSED WITH WEDDING PLANNING!!!!!!!!!! i think about it all the time, i realize it’s all i talk to my friends about ( I read a post yesterday and realized I was obsessive ) I check weddingbee everyday now for ideas and to see how lovely everyones plans are turning out…as well as disasters…sorry 🙁 …I found myself struggling to keep from telling my fiance about the newest wedding accomplishment I tackled because I know he would rather hear about other things besides logistical wedding stuff. I know because I was once like that too. I don’t think i’m a Bridezilla (at least no one has told me that yet) and it really only started in Mid-Janurary (i’m saying that so I can be okay with it )…but i want to stop. Not the planning part, just the thinking about it everyday part. We have taken care of almost everything big (officiant, venue, catering, dress, DJ, photographer, videographer, florist, baker even hotel accomodations…I know I work fast…plus I have lots of friends who were MORE than willing to help out) So why am i still obsessing?!?!?!? I just need help getting back to my old self. I’m really a fun person, and funny too. I know I talk about other things…I just can’t remember what those things are for some reason…Has any of this happened to you? So i’m looking for some help and advice from fellow bees…how did you come back from the cyclone called wedding planning?
Post # 3
My FH and I always have one full day of non-wedding stuff. We go out and have a date day. We will veg-out in front of the TV or go to the movies, shopping, anything but wedding stuff. It’s getting harder to do now that I’m a month away, but it has kept me from driving him or me nuts.
Post # 4
I TOTALLY understand! I think the reason its so easy to become obsessed with the planning is because its fun and its something most people want to do! I’ve only begun planning this month and ive already seen an effect in my grades….
But we can do this together! I’m thinking of making a limit for myself, like… wedding planning can only be done on the weekends (unless, of coarse, a vendor calls you!) Or, maybe setting aside only 1 hour a day to get "wedding" related things off your checklist.
I guess I should get back to studying now…
Post # 5
I had to keep myself in check and remember that not everyone was as into my wedding as I was- including my FI.
Just make sure when you speak to friends and family that you make sure to ask them about their lives- not just ramble on about yours!
Post # 6
Wow. I understand totally. When I get the ring (we already know we’re getting married this year) I will probably do a 2 week swoon. Yea, that’s what I predict. lol!
Then I’ll get back to work!
Post # 7
You take schedule breaks and commit to not talking about or doing any wedding planning things (you will never stop thinking about it…)
you have to make time to step away from it or it will consumer your life…but it is a blast and so much fun, so relish it and spend time on weddingbee to get your fix and give your fiance a little break!
Post # 8
If you feel like it’s negatively affecting your life, then follow the above advice. But, I think: JUST GO FOR IT! Get obsessed, look at every picture, check Weddingbee a million times a day (so often that you find yourself saying "I saw this on Weddingbee" at least twice a day). There will come a time when you naturally get sick of it and you’ll back off a little. But this is your only wedding and you should be a little obsessed because it’s fun and when else will you be able to try so many craft projects anyway?
So long as you’re monitoring yourself so that it’s not the only thing you ever talk about with your friends and your work or school isn’t suffering, have fun with it.
Post # 9
It can definitely take over your life. I try to just take some time away from all of it. Like if we go away for the weekend, we just don’t talk about it. If we’re out at dinner, we’ll sometimes talk about everything OTHER than our wedding plans. Of course, we have the flip side, too, when we DO talk about our plans. I just think that you have to strive for some wedding-free time, so that it doesn’t consume you.
Post # 10
Haha, I hear you. My mom and I joke that surely there were things we USED to talk about…right?! And what are we going to talk about when the wedding is over?!
I don’t think you should kill yourself over this… wedding planning is fun and you are enjoying it, so don’t worry! I try not to talk about the wedding too much with friends, even though it’s hard sometimes, I just don’t because I know they don’t care nearly as much as I do. I limit it to the people who I know really care- mostly my mom, dad occasinoally, Fi most of the time (though not all!), and, well…. you guys!! My advice would be to keep coming on wedding bee a lot to get all that "wedding talk" out of you, and try to focus on the present when you’re with your family or friends, rather than the wedding.
But most of all.. it (hopefully) only happens once… so just enjoy it!!
Post # 11
i’m feeling you.. except i dont talk about it to anyone.. i just plan plan plan.. i’m also inlove with weddingbee and am always checking and refreshing in case someone put a new post
Post # 12
Definitely feel you on this one! Weddingbee has been my savior! I can talk about wedding stuff to my heart’s content with other lovely ladies who are just as wedding-crazy as I am, then go back to real life and talk about other things. I’m not saying the wedding doesn’t come up in conversation rather a lot, but I’m able to talk about other stuff too. Maybe blogging would help too? You could get a lot of that need to tell everyone everything feeling out without actually forcing anyone to listen to it against their will. I think I’m going to be doing that soon. ^_^ Good luck!
Post # 13
thanks…yes I was definitely having a moment…I just didn’t realize how it can take over your life! Especially since I definitely was not like this before…I actually was dreading planning…But i’m okay :)…luckily I think I noticed before anyone else did…I think I will forever need a weddingbee "fix" …but i’m weening myself off looking at wedding stuff every minute slowly but surely
Post # 14
But it’s so much fun!! I already know I’m going to have withdrawls in April, when everything’s over with….
Post # 15
I talk about my wedding all the time, but am cognizant of it and try to not discuss it with friends who might not be that into it. I have one friend who is getting married a week before me and we talk about it all the time – we are good outlets. I usually try to talk to my FI about it in small doses so I dont drive him nuts.
I am obsessed with this website though and need to restrain myself a bit!
Post # 16
yea!! its so refreshing to hear that i’m not the only one obsessed with all things WEDDING. i’ve just started planning my wedding ( its 2 years+ away because we want to wait till my FI finishes school ) and its all i think about! i even thought to myself "maybe i could become a wedding planner" after we get married!! haha!