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Honestly I don't think that you should read into it that much. Be honored that you were a bridesmaid, obviously she cares enough about you to include you in her wedding!
The way I set my girls up, I put the person who was least closest to me as the first person walking in...so that they stood in order of the closest to me going away from me. Does that make sense? So in my scenario, you would have been the least closest to me.
However, I wouldn't have read into your situation that much. It sounds as if she did everything in height order (which I've also seen at other weddings), so it depends on the bride. I was also going to be the "first in" for another friend's wedding b/c she wanted someone very close to her to be seen first. So it really depends on how the bride looks at it. I wouldn't worry too much about it though.
I wouldnt read into it so much. We're doing our purely by height (except the MoH.) I was in one not long ago where I was on the end bc I was the tallest - but was the clsoest to the bride after her MoH. Everyone does it differently, d just take it as an hnor that you were asked to stand for her
I had my ladies in order of height and I believe they were listed the same in the program. I wouldn't read too much into it. If you know where you truly stand in your relationship with her, then it should be just fine.
I'm going to add that I was very honored to stand for her and at the end of the day and I know it's not a big deal. I was just very confused and even my FH (who came to the wedding) asked why I was standing farthest away. We both think it's more of an honor to be standing closer, that's how we're doing it. But we were lined up in height order, even the groomsmen were so that's a possibility, she just never said so.
I've had wedding coordinators re-arrange BM's at the last minute b/c of height, only for the bride to re-arrange them again. Standing up by height is not uncommon. I'd think the way she listed it in the program is the way she intended to have you on stage.
Try not to let where you stood rank your value of friendship, though. We all have relationships that ebb and flow through life. Sometimes you will be closer and sometimes you will not. If you ever feel yourself doubting your importance to that friend, keep in mind that she chose you to be a special part of her wedding day and make a continued effort to be a good friend to her.
I agree don;t read into. I've never heard of walking in based on least closest. I've only heard of walking in based on your height and the height of the groomsman you're paired with. etc...
my girls were so laid back, they didn't care which order they went in. My husband was more concerned about the order of his groomsmen. We matched up the ladies per height of the groomsmen, so they just fell into place that way. The girl that stood the furthest away was actually the one to give the toast at the reception, so the order really didn't matter of who was closest or best to me.
It sounds to me that she wanted to not offend anyone, so she did both to 'even' out the situation =)
height order is pretty common for the order of the bridesmaids, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.
I think she wanted to let you know that she didn't put you last to snub you, that it was just a logistical thing b/c she still thinks you're one of her besties! Esp since she listed you after her MOH =]
yeah, seriously, don't read into it. You were in her wedding, which means you are definitely important to her. I'm having my girls go in in order of height...they all mean the world to me though!
I didn't even know you were supposed to put them in order of how close they were.. how could you even quantify that?! All my girls are special, which is why I asked them to be bridesmaids. I wouldn't think about it all - it's no biggie :-)
If she had you lined up by height and never mentioned it she probably just forgot to. On a hectic day it would be amazing to remember to tell people why they were where they were in line. I wouldn't worry about it =)
I think she probably did it for height - thats what I did. I wasnt going to put my girls in order of who I was closest with because I am close to all of them and I wouldnt want to decide or hurt feelings. She probably didnt even think anything of it and just listed the names as they came to her. Try not to let it bother you!
I agree with the common consensus that it was probably by height. I had my girls lined up by height, but listed in the program alphabetically. I never even considered it based on years known,etc. I've been a bridesmaid 7 times, and always see it done based on height other than the MOH.
I agree with the other girls, I wouldn't read into it so much. After the MOH the order could be based on lots of things, not necessarily how much you mean to her. It could even be based on how the men were standing - since you have to exit with a certain fellow from the church. Maybe the last guy standing was your height? Who knows, I'm sure you meant a lot to her either way :)
I agree - I wouldn't read into it that much ... I stood next to the maid of honor at a cousin's wedding a few years ago ... but I certainly wasn't any closer to her than the other girls (as a matter of fact I feel like I'm the least closest to her and was then, too) and that's no big deal ... sometimes it just works for height, etc. I think it's great you were in her wedding and definitely an honor! So no worries - no overthinking of this needed!
I most commonly see people standing in height order at weddings, save for the MOH! But, if you were listed 2nd in the program, out of alphabetical order, sounds like you were "first in line"....
This is why I stuck with alphabetical order in the programs! :) No confusion...
I wouldn't worry about the way you walked down - that really might have been a height situation. I would take it for value where you were in the program :)
Don't read into it too much. I don't want to make my friends feel like they are first, second, best, worst, whatever, so, other than my MOH, everyone is going in height order. It means nothing about who is closer to me than the others.
I went with who i've known the longest. It was the safest way to put everybody in order! I really didn't want to put people in order of "love" and height wasn't very feasible for my group.
I think brides in general are wary of their friends and tend to choose "safe" orders. Of course, being the tallest, I know where that puts me, but I feel super weird standing so close to the bride and being, oh, 6 inches taller than her....
I put my BMs in order of closeness although most of them fall around the same "amount of closeness" to me, so you might have been "last". But I DID have a friend who truely was so anal that she wanted it in height order and that's the way the girls were lined up. I wouldn't read to much into it, if you girls really are good friends, that's all that matters was that she wanted you by her side not matter what "number" you were :)
to be democratic about it, i listed everyone in the order i've met them. but really - i only did this in case someone was counting, because I don't like one more than another one. I'm not sure my girls are sensitive like that, but who wants someone asking this question to themselves later? yikes. Personally? I think it doesn't matter at ALL.
I'm equally close with all my BMs (2 aunts and 1 sister). Most likely the order will be aunt, sister, aunt/MOH .The reason? My MOH's son is the RB, so it will be easiest if he follows behind his mom, and my sister has never even been to wedding before and may get nervous being the first one. I haven't shared my reasons with them yet, and I may or may not do so b/c to me its irrevelent. For pictures.
My friend got married this past summer and chose someone from each part of her life as BM. There was no apparent reason for the order they were in...College then HS then Grad School/Work and MOH. I know my friend well enough to say that ther's no WAY she put anymore thought into the line up order than "girls, line up!"
Oops, I meant to add, for pictures we'll line them up by height. FH is an architect so the "lines" on EVERYTHING have to be "right". lol
I think you are probably just reading too much into it. :p
I'm going to do my maids alphabetically. No arguments on that one.
Well I had my MOH closest to me of course, but I had the other two BMs in order of height, with the shortest going first. So they came out BM 1 - 5' 2" tall, BM 2 - 5'7" and MOH, 5'10".
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I'm only having a MOH. lol so thankfully I won't have this issue...
I've been in other weddings though & I really don't think you should read too muh into it! She asked you to be in her wedding & wanted you up there with her! Think of the girl in the back row who thought they were BFFs over the last few years and got a B-List invite! haha... there's always someone who's annoyed they aren't in the wedding party! Atleast you made it in :)
I have 1 MOH and 2 Bridesmaids and to be honest the thought of importance has never come to mind (at least not in that way). Obviously, my MOH is my childhood best friend who till this day has stuck by my side. However, I love them all. I think it will come down to size order.
I think for you, don't read into to it. I was in a wedding once with 8 BM's and really the order we walked in on didn't matter. We were there to celebrate their day. I'm sure in June your BM's will be doing the same regardless of the order you have them walk in on. :)
When I go to weddings I don't think "ohhh, she is walking in first so she is least closest to the bride." I don't think that is how it works at all! A lot of it may have to do with height... we did ours in order of who we felt we were closest with, but it ended up being very close to height as well. None of my girls cared, they were just sooo happy to be in my wedding! I think it is a true honor, no matter where you are standing!
dude, it doesn't matter! stop reading into it so much! Just be happy you are still friends and she asked you to be her BM!
I'm almost always furthest away because I am almost always the tallest... I've never felt less loved or less close to the bride. I don't think you should think of it as being "first" or "last"... that doesn't make any sense to me. For my own bridesmaids, I love them all equally and feel so lucky to have them all in my life! :)
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I was a bridesmaid in my high school friends wedding last weekend and I'm really confused about what 'order' I was in.
There were 4 of us total including the MOH (sister). We are all from different stages in her life, I was her best friend in middle school/high school, there was a college friend and a post college friend in the mix. A couple months ago, she wrote me an email saying that I was her 'best' friend as we've stuck together so long through good and bad times. But I would say she is 'closest' with the college friend who was recently laid off and hanging out with her almost every day.
On her program, my name is listed right after the MOH, not in alphabetical order. But then, at the wedding she had me walk first and I was standing farthest away from her and her husband during the vows. There's a chance it was meant to be in height order for pictures, but I find that kind of strange.
What do you think? Was I first or last?