Post # 1
that’s my dilemma, do i politely ask the guests not to dress too grungy. I mean i get its a backyard BBQ party, where normally it would be okay to come in shorts and t-shirts. But i am hoping since it is also for a post-wedding reception, people will try to dress nicely. i will be wearing a white dress – not my big fancy wedding dress, but the dress i wore for my TTD pics – which is still super fancy for a BBQ. I know some of my BMs will be wearing their BM dresses again (or for the first time since two of them couldnt make it to Jamaica).
So i am wondering – should I put something on my website about what to wear for this BBQ, or just let it go and hope for the best that people put some effort!
and if i do put something on my website – how do i word it?? any suggestions are appreciated, thanks!
Post # 3
I would say “smart casual attire requested”
We had an after elopement party we put something similar on our website and most people dressed accordingly. In all honestly though, it really didnt matter at the end of the day what the heck people wore.
Post # 4
I don’t really think there’s a polite way to dictate what your guests wear. They’re adults and capable of dressing themselves appropriately. I just went to a wedding at a state park last weekend and everyone was still dressed nicely, but appropriately for the weather. If it’s hot out, you’re going to have to expect a few people in dress shorts. The people who really do dress “grungy,” are probably going to do so regardless of what you print on your website. The only way to communicate style of dress is if someone specifically asks what they should wear.
Post # 5
We had a similar issue when we celebrated with a backyard party in DH’s hometown. It was a catered buffet which may be a bit more formal than a BBQ but no one knew that ahead of time. We sent out paper invites and included a line that said (translated) festive dress requested. The intention was to let people know jeans would be too casual and it is still a festive occasion even in his parents’ back yard. Over all it worked perfectly. Only one guy wore jeans and he paired them with a blazer and nice shoes thus not looking too casual. I wore a short dress and DH a suit. In fact, many of the men wore suits which was even more than I expected. I think writing something about semi-formal or festive dress requested is a great indicator for guests as well as spreading the dress code via word of mouth and not calling the reception a BBQ.
Post # 6
@slicey19: lol, too late to not call it a BBQ, i printed it on the invites and they have already been sent! i am calling it a “BBQ reception”. on my website, i wrote “post-wedding BBQ reception”. so its also too late to print anything about attire on the invites, but i might add a line to my website.