I am dreading the 26th.

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so sorry): I wish I had advice for you but all I can offer is *HUGS* to you! I would probably take the day off and relax at home. Again I’m so sorry for your loss.

Post # 4
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@stefanielovesjamie:  Maybe instead of staying home, you can plan something for yourself. Something that will keep you out of the house, but will allow you to be away from the pregnant woman that you work with?

I’m terribly sorry you’re going through this, I hope some of the other Bees can give you better advice and help you keep strong during this tough time<3

Post # 5
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@stefanielovesjamie:  awww… your post broke my heart. i can’t relate AT ALL, but i think only 6 months later it is totally normal for you to be feeling this way. and i think you would be totally justified in taking a “mental health day”. and i don’t think anyone would blame you if you stayed in bed all day, watched horrible tv, and ate a lot of ice cream. and on the 27th maybe you’ll be a tiny bit more healed than you were on the 25th.

best of luck, thinking of you.

Post # 6
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Aw, I’m sorry hun.  Take all the time you need to mourn and heal – there is no “right” amount of time when it comes to grieving.  Maybe you could take the day off and plan a nice spa day for yourself?  If you want to stay home and cry all day, then do that too  – it’s OKAY!

Thinking of you.

Post # 7
1563 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Take a day for yourself and call out of work. Plan something fun that you would really like to do. Spa day? Shopping? Go out with your friends? Do something to take your mind off the day and relieve stress.

Post # 10
2174 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@AstoriaK:  I think a spa day sounds perfect.  Spend some time pampering yourself and relaxing, maybe spend a nice dinner with your husband.  You don’t have to forget the day, but you can find a way to make it easier.

Post # 11
81 posts
Worker bee

@stefanielovesjamie:  I had a MC at 11w2d… It was an unplanned pregnancy, but by that point I’d gotten used to the idea, even though only my SO and best friend knew about the pregnancy (which I was thankful for, in the end). It was the day before Valentine’s day this year. I still cry in the shower a few times a week. Your love for that precious little baby is so pure and sweet, and can be shared with your future children. Hold it close to your heart and save it for them. Be strong! xo

Post # 12
8658 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have no words, but I can give you all the internet hugs you need (((HUGS))))  I’m sorry for your loss.

Post # 14
2429 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That would be incredibly hard to encounter on a daily basis. I also recommend taking the 26th off work. If you’re still feeling very down after the 26th, you might consider seeing a therapist. Not that there is anything wrong with grieving, it just might help to have someone outside of your primary support group to talk to. I just learned in my city that we have a brand new therapy center that offers support groups and individual therapy for people dealing with infertility and pregnancy loss. 

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