I am getting married in 4 months and I just lost my job

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 2
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6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Waitingbee57: 

I am so sorry about your job loss! 🙁

How much do you owe on the wedding as of right now? 

How much do you have in savings (if you want to put it in terms of months of living expenses that’s fine)?

How long has your FI been out of work too?

Cancelling does seem like the option, but I guess I need a few more facts to formulate an opinion.

 

 

Post # 3
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6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Waitingbee57:  PS – I personally have cancelled a fully guested wedding with 120 days to go (4 months).  We were out some money, but 120 days happen to be the magic cancellation date.

Post # 4
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1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Waitingbee57:  You can always grieve the firing when you apply for unemployment. If they don’t bother defending their position, you win. Were you ill? Could you get doctor’s notes backing you up? Before you immediately cancel the wedding, is it possible for you to be able to get employed within a month? Would your parents be willing to help?

I’m sorry this is happening. That sucks.

Post # 5
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42490 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some vendors are willing to work with you and give you credit for your deposits if you postpone rather than cancel the wedding.

Post # 6
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2654 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Terrible news!

I wouldn’t say cancel but maybe scale back? Have the invited been sent out yet?

Post # 7
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1 posts
Wannabee

Waitingbee57:  I’m sorry that you lost your job. I would check with your state regulations about the attendance required to fire someone. I know in Texas you have to miss over 40% of your full time or have 3 no-call-no-shows (company policy). If it wasn’t something like that, I would definitely fight them over the fact that they’re trying to shaft you.

Otherwise, I would consider trying to post-pone things instead of cancelling.

Post # 8
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Waitingbee57:  I would scale way back or cancel with cancelling as my primary choice because wedding planning was stressful enough in the last few months leading up to the wedding.  I couldn’t imagine being unemployed and trying to figure out all of the last minute planning and payments that popped up.

Post # 2
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265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m so sorry! That’s a terrible situation. I wouldn’t cancel–there are a few different ways to make money here and there. And I’d still apply for unemployment, because you never know if there are loopholes or something like that. 

What type of work were you in? I’m trying to make some extra money, and I’ve had decent luck with selling some things on Etsy, and finding misc tasks I can do on elance.com and odesk.com…even Craigslist gigs! 

Best of luck to you!

Post # 9
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715 posts
Busy bee

Waitingbee57:  How soon can you find a new job? Can you and Fi get some work to have something that pays for the bills + a little extra? can you do some odd jobs in your neighborhood (dunno… gardening, babysitting, renovations…) Hope you’ll find a new job quick! Sending good vibes your way.

Post # 12
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1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’ve said it before on the Bee, and I’ll say it again!  Try temp-ing (through a temp agency).  I did it for about 8 months while I waited to go to grad school, and they had almost constant work for me, and paid decently (most of the jobs were $10/hour).  They also had several temp-to-hire jobs that I wasn’t interested in since I was moving and going to grad school.  That was office administration, but depending on the type of temp agency, there are other opportunities out there.

Post # 12
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6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Waitingbee57:  Its so crazy! I am so excited! But we are looking at massive amounts of bills right now and I am not sure how I am going to do it in 4 months unfortunately a crap load of stuff has fallen on us lately and are basically left with the 7K more we need to pay off and we live pay check to paycheck. We only need to come up with 4K of that. But has anyone else been in this situation or is anyone in this situation? What did you do?

<br />I saw your post from last week and it looks like you guys were paycheck to paycheck so there is nothing really to live off of right now (aka no savings). <br /> <br />I think if I were at the point where I had no savings to even eat/live off of, I would probably be cancelling my wedding and building up a solid savings before I do a wedding (so that job loss won’t become a crisis in the future!).  It might hurt at first (the $ that you might be out – again we were only out $300 when we cancelled 4 months prior), but in the long haul it might be the best financial move.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  sienna76.
  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  sienna76.
Post # 13
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8425 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Sorry to hear you lost your job, but I would definitely consider cancelling the wedding if I were you.  There’s no point in spending money on luxuries (i.e. a wedding) if you’re struggling to pay your living expenses.  Hopefully your vendors will work with you since you’re still 4 months out, and you can postpone until you find employment.

Post # 14
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431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Waitingbee57:  I am so sorry to hear this, and I know that this must be a super stressful, emotionally challenging time for you.

I have a recommendation for you, but would like to chat offline. PM me if you would like.

 

Post # 15
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3200 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m sorry to hear this hun, but in all fairness when I was a manager we looked at attendance and would consider cutting anyone with an average of 3 or more callouts.  So at my previous employer we would’ve let you go too since that’s an average of three years worth of acceptable callouts.

Anyway, I would suggest calling off the wedding.  It’s a bummer, but I had too myself.  Family drama was the catalyst, but in retrorespect I do not regret it.

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