I am going to propose to him!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@butterflylove12:  That sounds beautiful! Congratulations! Keep us updated 🙂

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Hurrah! I’m proposing to mine, too. I think your idea is cute, and it’s cetainly safer than putting the ring IN his food.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

This is a great idea, all around. I wish you the best of luck with this! Keep us posted!! Also, don’t forget to take pics 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @butterflylove12:  First and foremost… I see this is your DEBUT Post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

Let me preface my remarks by saying ONLY YOU KNOW YOUR GUY

But it isn’t something that I’d do…

Men tend to think differently than women (as women we forget this, or don’t understand it)

Where we we fall in love faster, whereas they need more time… but when they come around then they are highly focussed)

I wouldn’t be so eager to push that hard… I’d prefer to be in charge of my own life in a different sort of way…

Example – Exchanging Life Plans and then making up my mind on whether I am ready to wait for him to “catch up” to where I am… and if he isn’t of the mindset that Marriage is something he wants or wants it later on in life, then I’d know and be able to make determinations about my own life. 

In truth…

The proposal is a very important part of a man’s ego… like we think about Weddings, they linger on how they’ll ask the woman of their dreams to marry them

I’d be therefore very worried that you are backing him into an awkward corner… men hate to see a woman cry… so even if he isn’t ready to marry you he could very well say YES just to smooth over the awkwardness… and then later down the road back out of the relationship… the Quote “You made me marry you” that is heard too often here on WBee on Divorce Posts comes to mind.

So ya, I wouldn’t do it… I want to marry a man that wants to marry me… cause when a man falls head over heels it is one of the sexiest most powerful things on the planet… a man will go to the ends of the earth for the woman he loves.

And as a woman… that is what to feel, and know… not that he agreed to marry me because he felt that there was no way out of an awkward moment.

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All that said… I suspect you will go thru with your plan… so I wish you well.

 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

 To @butterflylove12:  Then that is AWESOME

Having discussed it previously and him being OK is definitely HUGE in this situation

I know there is at least one other Bee here who did the same… and her experience was FABULOUS as well (she proposed… and then he proposed back… a day or so later, and with a Ring which she wasn’t expecting).

Sending you ~~Good Vibes~~

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Your idea sounds lovely and very creative!  

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Oooh that sounds like a great idea. Keep us posted and let us know how it goes!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It sounds super sweet, go for it. Isn’t there a good old saying like ‘only ask questions you know the answer to’ (or is it a line from an old Bond flick… hmm…) it seems like you know the answers so go for it. I also think it’s ridiculous that some people are so dead set on it being the guy doing the proposing. Anything goes in my mind. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@This Time Round:  aaww your post is so sad. marriage is a joint decision, how could it be that a man feels he has no choice in the matter? That would be pathetic in my opinion, if he said yes out of awkwardness. That reflects the character of the individual in my opinion, not the characteristics of men in general. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Congrats, that is so exciting! Marriage is truly a partnership, so as long you’re both on the same page and the guy can handle the potential backlash regarding gender norms, then it shouldn’t matter who proposes to whom. I love to hear about men who are so onboard with the woman proposing. 🙂 Can’t wait to hear the story/see some pictures! 

 

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wish I had had the guts to do this! You go girl! I wouldn’t have waited so many years if I had the courage to do this! lol! I hope it goes awesome for you!

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