(Closed) I am having a really rought day.-vent-

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

What kind of comments were you getting on the Youtube video? As far as I have seen on all of your recap threads, the Bees have been super nice and you have gotten a ton of comments from them.

Post # 6
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1227 posts
Bumble bee

Please don’t judge yourself or your wedding by the number of views your wedding got, or the number of of replies to your threads.  

I haven’t read any of your threads, nor seen your video, but if it was perfect for you, what others think doesn’t matter. You’re married. You did it your way. And that’s all that matters.

It seems that you might feel unsure of yourself, or have self-esteem issues.  I get the sense that you seek and require the validation of others to feel ok about yourself.  I only say that, because those kind of feelings probably effect other aspects of your life as well.  Maybe you could look into ways to feel better about yourself and more confident?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@alishaloo:  Sorry but there are some real jerks commenting on youtube. Isn’t there a way to post it on Facebook so friends + family can comment?

I loved and commented the photos of you being surprised at your sister. Also in that thread http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/pictures-of-my-suprise-so-happy I like the photo of all you all on the church steps. Was the writing on the steps already there? Whether or not it was, it’s a nice touch.

The wedding photos I’ve seen have been beautiful. In several of these: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/green-wedding-bells-part-3-becoming-a-bride-super-pro-pic-heavy you look so happy, how could anyone not like them?

I never post to the “bad wedding” threads. I think I just forget anything slightly bad and remember the good from the day. And I’m sure more of your friends are the samee.

Post # 10
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3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You know how I feel already ๐Ÿ™‚  But srsly the internet is harsh.  It took guts for you to put that up…and it was totes gorgeous and fun and creative.

To me the lesson is that where others see a bud you see a blossom! 

Post # 11
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1856 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@alishaloo:  Don’t compare to other threads – sometimes I’ve posted things online and I know it can be a little hurtful when you see that other people get more attention or interest, but you can’t let it get to you. *You* know you had a lovely wedding and your husband knows and your family and friends know. (and you did – I’ve seen your pictures, and you looked so happy). Don’t let that get to you.

And don’t let jerks on youtube get to you, either. There are people whose express purpose in life is trolling on the internet. You got hit by them unfortunately. Share it among your friends and family on a private site or through your FB or whatever, but don’t let people who hide behind an anonymous computer screen upset you.

Post # 12
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2578 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I remember looking at your pics (yes I commented too!) and thinking you were the most BEAUTIFUL of brides.

 

Chin up lovely, don’t let other peoples pathetic attitude spoil your memories of your day xx

Post # 13
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1705 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Try not to feel too badly!  My threads never get a ton of responses, but I also know that some threads are maybe more relatable than mine, and when I posted my recap photos I got GREAT, genuine comments, but not pages and pages worth.  ๐Ÿ™‚  I’m okay with that.  My wedding was perfect for me and my husband and our lovely family and guests.  I honestly didn’t see your recaps posted but I promise I’ll take a look now.  I’m sure they’re lovely. 

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I think the internet can be so evil!!  I’m sorry a few mean people said some not-nice things about your wedding.  Some people feel better about themselves by putting others down ~ try to forget what you read and remember the happiness of your wedding day.  I looked at the pictures in the links posted above and I have to say you were a beautiful bride!  You also looked so happy and full of life.  Congrats on your wedding & try to focus on the happiness of your day!  ((hugs))

Post # 15
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6360 posts
Bee Keeper

People on Youtube are VERY snarky, it’s like a hobby for them to try to think how mean of a comment they can come up with about something. I strongly recommend you just forget about their comments!

Post # 16
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Aww hugs! I am sorry you are having such an emotional time post wedding. It is actually quite common. Something similar to post partum depression. Hang in there it will get better.

I cant wait til I get to a computer and look at your recaps. Posts with multiple pics dont tend to load on my phone : (  I am sure it was divine ๐Ÿ˜€ Now I desperately want to see your wedding video. Please let me know if you find a private way to do this. Do not let the nasty people in life get you down. Your wedding was wonderful. It accomplished the goal right?

We put way to much pressure on ourselves to plan the “perfect” wedding. The perfect wedding says nothing about us except that we are good party planners and should maybe look at it as a career option :p  It doesnt mean a more successful marriage, happier children, or that there will be no in law drama. It doesnt even say much about our personal style because lets face it there tend to be too many cooks stirring the pot. So relax andlet go of the idea that it had to be perfect or wow everyone. It accomplished what it needed to a man and wife ๐Ÿ˜€ I am sure your guests were happy and well looked after and thought you had a wonderful wedding.  {{hugs}}

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