- Mrs Hedgehog
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Okay, so a while back I finally admitted to my mom how upset I was that she didn’t seem to care at all about the wedding and me getting married. Even when I announced our engagement the conversation went like this:
Me: I have something to tell everybody!
Her: Oh, we already know. *Gets up and walks out
It wasn’t meant to be mean. She just has a hard time focusing on other people. So, when I finally told her how upset I was that my mother didn’t seem to really care about my wedding she has gone out of her way to point out how she was.
Now, some backstory. A month ago a pipe burst under the house, flooded the guest bath, the laundry room and part of their bathroom. Because of that, insurance gave them a bunch of money for repairs. They decided to save money and get more and, well, remodel it themselves. Awesome! They needed it after the damage. Plus, it gave them an excuse to make it all look like they have wanted it to look, so, yay! But now, they have decided to do the kitched as well… which wasn’t anywhere near the water damage. Okay, cool. Have fun! You deserve to have your house look like you want!
Now, in the middle of a phone call where she is complaining about how tired, sore, and sick of remodeling she is (which is the same phone call she announced their plans for the kitchen) she decides that by remodeling her house IS helping me with my wedding…. Huh? TBO, when it comes to my wedding, I could care less what your house looks like! But since she will be having OOS company over at the house and she doesn’t want it to look like “trailer trash” (It is a nice house… I don’t know where she got that) suddenly my wedding is benefitting from it.
Am I missing something here or has my dear, sweet mother gone off the deep end?
Note: I don’t have a problem with her remodeling. I do get sick of her complaining about it and adding more work for herself. I am actually really happy she is finally able to afford to do the things she has been wanting to do! I just don’t see how that adds anything to my wedding planning needs…