Post # 1
So I am getting married on 6/5/10 and can’t find “the dress”. I have been to a dozen shops and have probably tried on 30 dresses. I thought I knew which dress I was going to get mths ago but I have put on some extra weight and the dress doesn’t look so great anymore. I hvae taken multiple people with me and everyone has a different opinion. We are getting married in 5 mths and I don’t know what to do. I just can’t decide, is anyone else in my shoes??
Post # 3
yes! and im getting married in May! It sucks.big time. no advice, just i’m there to
Post # 4
Sort of. Even though I didn’t find “the one”, at the 6 month mark I bought a dress that I like enough to wear, because I didn’t want to be without a dress. But…I still look. I may be a two-dress bride if I find something I love more. I don’t recommend doing what I’m doing, especially if you’re on a tight budget. I don’t even tell family and friends I’m still looking because they wouldn’t understand.
Post # 5
There’s probably a good chance that you are getting in your own way. I did the same thing and realized that I was just too scared to make a decision when other’s didn’t necessarily agree. Just pick what you like because when you’re confident in it everyone will see how gorgeous you are. I would say find things you like about a dress and just keep moving in that direction and if all else fails…depending on your budget design one! You can go to a seamstress. But I think if you relax and dont worry about what others say…you can definitely pick THE dress. Also…six months is enough time to lose some of that weight. I’m in the same boat. I’m five months out and 10 pounds down 10 more to go “) Good luck
Post # 6
Yea, I really agree to pick what you like. And if you don’t mind sharing the photo of your body shape, I may be able to give some advice as I have sourced a lot too.
By the way, take a look here: http://www.trustedeal.com/Wholesale-Wedding-Dresses_c21.html A lot of different styles so you may check and compare first. I personally like simple style, A-line or ball-gown, satin.
Post # 7
If makes you feel any better, I had a dress dilemna too. I never got “THE FEELING” that everyone talks about. Maybe that’s something that just doesn’t happen for some people. Don’t get me wrong, I do love my dress, but I toiled over it. I created a post with pictures asking other Bees if I made the right choice between two dresses. It was completely divided. You just have to remember everyone’s opinion is going to be different. What really matters most is what you feel good wearing.
I guess for me I expected to sob and cry and be so happy about my dress, and then I realized, I just love all kinds of clothing and dresses so maybe being so emotional about it may not be in the cards for me. I liked a lot of dresses I tried on! BTW, I’m getting married on the same day as you! I hope the weather treats us well that day!
Post # 8
I was in the same boat. I tried on at least 50 dresses and I never got the tears and freaking out feeling from myself or anyone for that matter. There was one dress I cried over but when I went home and looked at the photos it made me look awful! I then looked at all my pictures and I pickd the dress I looking the best in and was well within my price range. I still get some regret but I keep telling myself I WILL MAKE THE DRESS not the other way around!
Post # 9
I went through the same thing, i almost bought one at David’s bridal out of desperation but thank god i didnt! Originally i wanted no lace, no sparkles nothing fancy, just mermaid, simple and elegant, i tried on all the simple, mermaid dresses from every designer and it just didnt look right on me. After watching ‘say yes to the dress’ and seeing all the brides find the one, shedding tears and so joyful I decided to give it one last try before purchasing the david’s bridal gown. I went to a small boutique around my way by myself this time, and tried on something completely opposite of what i originally wanted. As soon as I tried it on I cried! Literally! I couldnt believe it, my gown had lace, sparkles and pearls, what i was actually avoiding. Explore your horizons, have the saleswoman pick some out for you that she thinks would look good on you, because thats what i did, it was the third one i tried on that night compared to a zillion others i tried on, good luck! Dont settle, its worth the wait!
Post # 10
Keep looking! I looked for a good 10-11 months! i tried on so many dresses, Ugh. Look online for inspiration! if you know what you want, but can’t find it, try an etsy alchemy request! Or just explore places like etsy and ebay. I eventually found “the one” on etsy. I wavered for 3 months worried that just because i had “the one” feelings didn’t mean I’d love it as much later. I have now purchased the dress and I am TONS more excited about it then any other dress ever! 😀 Keep looking! It’ll cost you, but you can always put in a rush order, if it comes to that. Look at preownedweddingdresses.com for ideas or a dress!
Post # 11
@tammyt112: That is an excellent point. Sometimes we have to look outside of our comfort range. I always assumed I’d be wearing a ball gown with lots of tool and 3 wedding dress boutiques later I ended up in a demetrios trumpet skirt with french lace and pearls a very happy decided bride!
No worries. You’ll get there. Just keep in mind your ah ha moment may not match everyone elses. we all have different reactions.
Post # 12
Thank you for all of your GREAT advice!!! I finally bought a dress today (no tears came when i tried it on). It’s a nice dress and I like it a lot. Maybe the problem is that I liked a few. I ended up with a Vera Wang – 2G119, with the Audrey flowered belt. Less then 5mths to go and I didn’t have to rush it 🙂
Thanks again girls!!
Post # 13
Congrats June5bride on finding your dress! Its a gorgeous dress.
I tried on over 100 dresses easy and felt like I would never find the right dress. But I fell for the Audrey flowered belt at first sight. Last weekend I finally made my dress purchase- the Vera Wang Dita dress with the Audrey sash.