- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
This is a continuation of my last post, which has all the background info: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-think-my-mother-and-i-are-done-forever#axzz2f6hDysxY
Short Recap: I haven’t really spoke to my mother since February. Parents paid for wedding, I had some small disagreements with my mom over little things like limo and seating. She took it to a whole other level, badmouthing me to family, making up lies and exaggerations, making my family take sides, forwarding my text and emails, getting friends to message me nasty things based on her lies, an aunt even send me a toddler birthday card and text me really malicious things.
I tried to email the family, just telling them that an arguement with my mother shouldn’t lead to a family war, and we can all be civil and act like adults and not be spiteful.
Not one person responded.
Anyway the situation now!
My grandfather is in the hospital. I found out through my littler brother (10) twitter! I text a family member to try to get the story. I was shocked noone even told me! I sent flowers to the hospital. I text my grandmother asking questions on how he was, and I got very short responses back. A couple days later, when he was about to go into surgery, my mother FINALLY text me. Not even a personal text, a FWDED msg from someone else.I said, “yes I know he is going into surgery. I wish I had been told sooner, I had to find out thru twitter.
To which she basically said that I didnt go to a recent vacation and I should have and I could have said hi to him ( which has NOTHING to do with the situation at hand) and I was lazy for not driving 30 minutes to go to the vacation, and that she was too upset to argue with me.”
My response was that I was never given an official invite to the vacation which is why I didn’t go, it had nothing to do with the situation at hand. I wanted info on my grandfather”
She told me F U and she was “done with me”.
So, since my grandfather went in to surgery, I’ve gotten NO updates from my grandmother. I know my grandmother is sending updates and photos to the family but NOT including me.
I text her 5 times asking how he was. No response. I left a voicemial. NOTHING! I had to call the hospital and have a nurse get him on the phone for me. I finally text her ” are you getting my texts” NO RESPONSE.
Later that day I see he all over facebook! I am being ignored! I emailed her ” are you getting my texts?” She finally responded “cell service spotting in areas”. I replied, what was the last text you got?” NO RESPONSE AGAIN!!!!
I can’t believe my mother has poisoned my family enough to literally hate me and ignore me and treat me like this!
I’m in tears over how I am being treated! I want to email my grandmother ” thanks for ignoring me and updating everyone but me!” but I know the right this to do is probably just let iet go.
I’m so upset over this.
28/F –married 9 months ago.