I am insane…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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1750 posts
Buzzing bee

I think you’re just not used to having something like this, especially not with such meaning attached to it.

Don’t worry, just continue wearing it, get it resized so that it fits, and you’ll probably be comfortable with it in no time. 

 

Post # 4
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605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Splodge2003:  It’s gorgeous! I love radiants 🙂 No, you’re not insane! This is a big step in your life 🙂

Post # 6
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4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Splodge2003:  I think it’s beautiful, but if it doesn’t feel 110% perfect, send it back!

Post # 7
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1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@Splodge2003:  Maybe it’s best if you go back to the drawing board. You know, look around a bit more to see if there’s a better ring for you that doesn’t feel as if it should be worn only for special occasions. I do, however, think that you just may not be used to it yet; it’s still so new to you, and it represents a time in your life that is also new.

I suggest wearing it more to different places and for different activities so that you can find out how comfortable or uncomfortable it is, and if you’ll continue to feel as if you shouldn’t be wearing it. 

Rings like this are worn by lots of women, though, and they wear them nearly everywhere they go. It is beautiful, but the ring itself is not so out of the ordinary that it needs to be brought out only for special occasions. It’s meant to be worn.

Post # 8
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5421 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Splodge2003:  It’s gorgeous!

Personally, I would keep it, as I think you’ll get used to it. When we first got engaged, I found it so weird wearing a ring on that finger, and also wearing something big and shiny every day lol. I quickly got used to it though!

Re the width of the band: mine’s like that too, and again, it felt a bit weird at first. Now, it feels REALLY weird if I don’t wear it.

Re platinum: my original ring was white gold, so when I got my new one in platinum it did feel heavier. I personally much prefer it; it feels more ‘solid’. However, you could perhaps look at palladium, as it has similar properties to platinum but is a lighter metal. One metal I wouldn’t recommend though is white gold due to the maintenance; that was why I had my ring re-made.

Post # 9
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Is your problem really with the ring… you’re getting pretty nit-picky. Are you the type of person where nothing is ever good enough?

Or are you a little insecure about getting married and wearing this “special” ring makes you feel “too special” and like you don’t deserve it? The ring is beautiful and you do deserve it!! 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @Splodge2003:  GORGEOUS Ring !!

In Reply # 4 you said:

I just don’t  get it. The dimaond is the perfect size, I love the channel setting, and it’s  not too high. I don’t like the thickness and weight of the band so much, but I  suppose for something I will wear every day I’ll take weight and size over  something very delicate.

It’s almost like it’s too much for me, and I could only ever wear it on  special occasions. 

I think this is within the grounds of a totally normal reaction… this is very much how I felt when Mr TTR gave me my ERing.

That it was just too much for me.  Too special.

Even tho it was exactly what I wanted… chose, etc.

I think it was just the newness of it all.

Lol, I even did wear it in the beginning (well a week or two) ONLY when I was going out of the house… It just seemed “too pretty / too wonderful” to wear all the time

In reality, I was just overcome with emotions.  The amazing feeling of being engaged, the awe of this incredible ring.  Tons of happiness etc.

I had worn the Bridal Set from my first marriage 24/7 x 365 without issue… I think I was feeling just overwhelmed by my new state of being… more than anything else.

As for size & weight… ya that is pretty normal too.  If you haven’t worn a ring on that finger, then it is going to take some getting used to.  AND your brain needs about 7 to 10 days to figure out the parameter around your ring finger so you aren’t knocking your ring into every little thing…

I have a very wide band in my ERing, and a good load of Diamonds (all but the Feature Diamond is channel set).  It was HEAVY when I first wore it… but now I am lost without it… empty finger syndrom (the exact reason that I own 2 WBands… a Sparkly & a Plain so I never have to go without no matter what I am doing)

I am happy that I got a sturdy ring… it suits my style.  A tiny thin band and that baby would not have stood up well to the test of time at Chez TTR

Now the Platinum vs Gold Debate… well that is a personal choice… I am not a fan of Platinum, I went with White Gold.

But as for everything else, I think you just got try it out…

How long can you hold onto the Ring before you have to return it ?

 

Post # 12
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3557 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Splodge2003:  To me this sounds like less of a ring problem and more of a self-esteem problem. Just remember, if your FI says and thinks you deserve it he’s probably right. I would think that he knows you better than anyone else.

Post # 13
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474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

I say hold on to it a little longer and wear it as much as you can.  I have been married forever and never took my first set off except when it was going to get excperionally dirty.  I just recently got an upgrade (radiant also:)) and that stone is much bigger than what I had before. I felt completely overwhelmed and that everyone was staring at me when I wore it.  I also didn’t want it to get dirty.  As far as weight goes, we went with white gold vs my yellow gold prior set.  I liked the weight of the yellow gold because it gave me a sense of security to feel it there.  The white feels very light to me and I may still switch to platinum if I can’t get used to that.  I say all this to tell you that your feelings are normal so be patient with yourself and give yourself a little more time to decide.  It sounds to me like deep down you really do love it.

Post # 14
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1499 posts
Bumble bee

@Splodge2003:  Beautiful ring! (I am a fellow radiant owner too) It took me about 3 months to really get used to wearing my ring all the time. I loved it, and I am an avid jewellery wearer, but I too thought the metal was too much and dug in etc. Now, after wearing it everyday, I can’t imagine being without it. 🙂 Just give it some time, it is an adjustment!

Post # 16
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631 posts
Busy bee

I absolutely love my platinum ring because of its heaviness!  Over the years I have had dress rings in silver or gold and the platinum weight sets this ring apart! But I agree it takes a while to get used to it!

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