I am jealous of a four wheeler…. Rant!!!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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124 posts
Blushing bee

In my former relationship I was with an overall wonderful man who loved computers. I don’t mean that he liked them and spent time on them doing cool things; I mean he LOVED them. He talked about them all the time, had to have the newest, best, shinest one all. the. time. He would stay on his computer instead of going out and doing something with me, instead of sleeping with me, instead of bonding with me. I COMPLETELY understand how frusterating and down right insulting it can be.

Hopefully, you’re man will respond well to you simply talking with him and telling him out you feel. It’s possible that he doesn’t even realize that he brings it up all the time, or that he has begun to choose it over you. If you talk with him in a level mannered wya, in a way where he has the chance to see how you feel; then I am sure that everything will work out for the better.

If, for some reason, you have already had that conversation and he is still acting this way – maybe ask him if you guys can go four-wheeling together or use it to go camping or something. By using it as a tool to encourage more weekend trips or afternoon activities, it may be a source of joy for the both of you.

If that doesn’t work (it didn’t for me), then a serious conversation would be in order ~ but we’re hoping for the first option anyway! Good luck! 

Post # 3
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Stillwell House

My ex-husband was addicted to sit-coms on tv in the days befoe DVRs.  All of our outtings were planned around his shows.  One did not speak to him until a commercial break, and one did not initiate sex during either = sex was always the last order of the evening if his shows did not run too late and spontaneity was out the window.  

I was a book worm at the time, so that would occupy me.  But when I found other interests that did not keep me seated on the sofa next to him, guess who started feeling abandoned?  And he used that abandonment to justify having an affair.  

My current husband is a musician and spends time in his office playing, writing, recording.  It is a large part of who he is and what he does. Freaking perfectionist and very hard on himself.  But I am never an interruption to him and he welcomes me every time.  

OP, you definitely need to be clear with hubby, and let him know how it is making you feel.   

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