Post # 1
If I have to hear that my or anybody elses wedding isnt “traditional” I am going to scream! I don’t understand why people care so much.
For example, my sweet Fiance wants me to walk down the aisle to the old, traditional wedding march ( the one you sang to your barbies when you were little)… I explained to him that it isnt what I want and I made the comment to his mom and she said ” well it is traditional”… i swear…
I want our wedding to be about us and not tradition. Tradition is too up tight to me and weddings should be fun, sweet, and what you want! If tradition is what some brides want, than do it… but not me. I am a very non traditional person ( I am from the south and for some reason every person I know is traditional but me). I also dont care very much for etiquette. I understand that it is important to some… but if someone comes to my wedding and claims that something I did was not a part of etiquette, than please leave.
I am sorry to vent… I just needed to get it off my shoulders… because it seems everytime I open my mouth about it I offend someone…
Post # 3
I agree, why are there so many ridicules “rules” about weddings. It’s a day to celebrate you and your Fiance, and whatever you want to do, you should be able to do! If people don’t like it, don’t go!
Post # 4
haha you get used to offending people when you are doing things differently! It starts to become funny…you will find a little tiny smile creeping in on the corners of your mouth everytime you say something like ‘I want to have a giant slingshot for a real life game of angry birds there’ and everyone in the room /jawdrops
Post # 5
I have learned through this whole wedding planning process is that I keep my wedding planning to myself. When people ask details about the event I just say that I am making it a special day for my Fiance and our kids. Sharing details is like a double edge sword, everyone is going to have an opinion whether you want it or not. So my way of thinking is ” IT’S MY DAY, SO IT’S MY WAY”………
Just know your not the only “non-traditional” bride- to- be out here. Wish you luck
Post # 6
My wedding was a hodge-podge of stuff Darling Husband and I like. It was at a Victorian b&b at Christmas time. He wore TARDIS cuff links. I copied the wedding cake from “Father of the Bride”. My grand entrance was to the theme song that was written for our favorite documentary. The next song on the track was “Margaritaville,” which came on during our vows. (not planned that way, we forgot to set the first one to repeat). It was ok, though, because it is “our song”.
We had the wedding we wanted, and didn’t care about tradition.
Post # 7
you are bound to offend people one way or another. trust me. Everyone was okay with “simple” wedding as it’s less troubles. As soon as the planning wagon started to roll, everyone suddenly has all kinds of expectation.
You just need to be firm and calm, tell them thanks for the input but this is what you want 🙂 Or just tell them you will think about it.
Post # 8
I just smile when I read about stuff that others have done to make their day special… I just feel that if we do traditional it turns into what everyone else is doing… I want to actually elope and not tell anyone and still have our “wedding day” so the eloping is just for me and him… but he said no bc it isnt traditional haha
also we have already bought a house and I have been decorating it since we moved in and I think i have done a very good job… I like the distressed look so I have distressed a lot of our furniture and I keep telling him, his mom, and others… if you like our house you are going to like our wedding…
Post # 9
@murmur: hahaha!!! love it and totally going to use that as a coping mechanism.
Are you DIYing the slingshot or have you found somewhere to rent it from?
Post # 10
@lamkky: I think you hit it on the head. I just wonder why people get so…offended.
I mean there are some things that you shouldn’t do at your wedding like make out with the best man or flash the wait staff but then there’s some things that I just don’t understand. The cash bar is one example, but I’m sure there are many more.
There are some things I don’t like to go along with but I do because it’s for my friends and/or family. I don’t sit around and complain about it later or judge them because of it. If it’s way outside my comfort level I don’t participate. I haven’t been cited by the wedding police for any breaches of etiquette personally, but I’ve been cited for tolerating it or NOT judging…what’s the deal?