- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Thsi is a bit long, and a bit vent-y, but it’s quite a story. A while back I wrote a post about my friend. You can read it here. Basically, my friend asked if she and her new boyfriend could come stay with us. I said no, and the bees mostly agreed I was right to do so.
After that, several other things happened. To start with, she called me one night and asked me for a favor. She had an expensive item that she needed to return, but she had no receipt. At our Wal-Mart there is a policy that only allows several photo I.D. returns a year, and she had already used all hers. That was my first red flag.
I didn’t want to believe that my friend would screw me over though, so I returned the item. It wasn’t until after I did that I started hearing even more red flags. Apparently, she had bought this for her mom, who had gotten angry with her and decided she didn’t want it. I asked her why her mother got angry, she said “I don’t know.” She also said that she didn’t have any money for gas, which is why she needed to return this.
I though, why would she be buying 60 dollar items if she was broke? I began to think that she was stealing these things from people, and taking them to Wal-Mart for a refund.
Several days later, she called me again. This time, she wanted to come visit me. “But” she warned me, “my boyfriend is really messed up?” and she laughed while she said it.
Let me tell you something about her ‘boyfriend’ (who she isn’t seeing anymore btw). He is a fool. The kind of guy who gets a mugshot taken more than a family photo. I’d expect to see him on youtube at some point in time.
I did not want this man in my house, and especially not high on pills. I quickly lied and said we were not home, and that we were headed to town. Well, she was in town, with something else she wanted me to return.
This time it was a 90-100 dollar electronic item. I was a ‘gift’ from his grandma on his bday. I didn’t want to do it, Darling Husband didn’t want to do it, but I thought that if we just went ahead and did this, then I could block her and never have to worry about it again. It wasn’t like she wanted anything to do with me anyway, not unless she needed something.
They were both obviously high when we got there. After we returned it, I called my best friend to tell her about how weird I felt.
She told me that those two items we returned were the exact same items people had learned how to steal from the store, and then return for the full refund. I had considered she was stealing from someone, but I never thought she was taking these large ticket items directly from the store.
I was upset, but I was more embarassed. I was also disappointed, and hurt. And after all those feelings faded, I just felt guilty, stupid, and like a theif.
I called her mother. She confirmed what I had feared, she told me that she had never seen the item that was ‘supposedly’ gifted to her. It had never happened. She also let me know that my friend had stolen about 300 dollars from her bank account recently.
I, calmly, gave my friend a chance to confess. I let her know that unless she could be honest with me, that our friendship was over. She changed her story some, and got defensive, but she was still dishonest with me. I gave up, I told her that our friendship was over, I loved her, and I hoped our friendship could be revived in better circumstances one day. I asked her to please not call or text me. She nevered responed to this.
I didn’t delete her on fb, but I set her profile to where I couldn’t see her feed. I was sure there would be plenty of passive-agression on there, and I didn’t care to see it. Overall, I thought I handled it all pretty well, I felt in the right.
She sent me this in a fb message this morning.
O me, bees! This doesn’t bother me in the way that I’m sure she hoped it would when she sent it. No, this bothers me in a totally different way. Why is she trying to start drama today, when this incident happened almost two months ago? What do you guys thinik? And what do I do with this silly message? I haven’t responded. Not sure that I want to, but even if I did, I just don’t have the words.