Post # 1
I am so tired of people telling me not to worry about the cost of my wedding and that I will “make the money back”. Excuse me? Why do you think Im getting married?! It is certainly not for gifts and money. In fact, I don’t care if we get gifts or not. We have been together for 8 years and have a wonderful life together with our son. We have our own place, we have just about everything we need. Of course there are things I would like and some I actually do need. But in no way shape or for am I expecting them because we are getting married. Any gifts would be appreciated, but I just don’t give a flying hoot about them. I hate the “we will make the money back” complex and people have about weddings. This is not a business venture! Maybe as a 23 year old, Im a bit naive and living in a fantasy. I thought weddings were for people to get married, not make money.
Post # 3
I honestly don’t think anyone makes back the amount they have spent on a wedding whether the event is big or small. Maybe once upon a time they did, not sure but todays economy for things I would think it would be pretty impossible.
Post # 4
I feel for you!!! So tired of hearing… you shouldn’t invite that person they won’t bring a present…
Post # 5
NONE of my friends “made back their money” when they got married. Tons of them had financial assistants from their parents, but I don’t know anyone going into it saying that they expect to make back their money.
I also don’t understand your vent. I think people are trying to make you feel comfortable with the quite-often-large financial expenditure that a wedding is by letting you know that people will give gifts.
And while you’re not doing it FOR the gifts, they are saying not to worry so much about cost because you will still get them. Even if you don’t expect them or think they’re necessary, I think most people do give gifts.
Post # 6
So distasteful! You have an awesome attitude though – I honestly think that some people see $ next to the names on their guest list. I think my circle/area is less gift focused so I’ve never come across that whole mindset but I think I’d flip out if someone said that to me, lol.