Post # 1
My wedding isn’t until November 1, 2014 but I feel so overwhelmed and stressed already over vendors and their BS.
We booked a venue already and a photographer. 2 things FI and I thought were important to get out of the way and not stress about seeing as how we loved both and BOTH had high booking rates and we didn’t want to miss out. I’ve been telling myself to put everything else off and not worry about anything until later which for the most part I have no problem with but I was thinking about hair and makeup and was curious as to trial costs and total cost come the day of the wedding and who can do what only to find out that almost everyone who has given me a quote is incapable of doing what I want/need and the prices are all across the board.
Not to mention that some recommendations I’ve receieved from friends have fallen through since the people they recommend e-mail you once and never e-mail you again which is very unprofessional if you ask me and a huge bummer.
::Freak Out Mode: ACTIVATED::
I look at portfolios on line of the people quoting me and I don’t like most of what I see. I am not looking for ANYTHING over the top though I did want to try a unique hair style to see if it works for me but the makeup is really simple. I am getting anxiety because I am feeling like I won’t find anyone that can do what I like/want and will end up having to do it myself or it will end up looking terrible not to mention everyone keeps putting pressure on me (the stylists) to book ASAP because they book really fast which makes me feel even more pressure to book something soon and HOPE for the best and be stuck with something I don’t like if it fails.
I feel like I am being irrational here but has anyone else had this feeling or did you go through this? Can anyone even recommend a good hair and makeup artist that can do trials and travel to the venue in South Jersey? (The Smithville Inn, Smithville, NJ)
Below are some ideas of what I was looking at:
The unique hair style I wanted to try and the makeup is exactly what I’m looking for. Something neutral in nature.
Or this hairstyle which seems easy enough to do.
I feel like fainting over the prices of some of the trials alone and then the thought of not being able to book anyone on top of the urgency to book ASAP because of applied pressure from these people 🙁
I guess what I’m looking for here is encouragement and possibly recommendations.
Post # 3
No need to freak out just yet – you’ve still got more than a year to go. Don’t bow to the pressure from stylists – of course they want to lock you in, but there’s no way everyone is going to be booked more than a year out. I don’t really have any recommendations for hair in South Jersey, but my sister (who works in Freehold, about an hour north of you) is a professional hairdresser and did my wedding hair, and it came out great. I can give you contact info if you are interested. Don’t panic, no matter what – you WILL find someone who can do what you want.
Post # 4
Your wedding is almost TWO YEARS away. I live in a major city and booked all my vendors 4 months before my wedding. It will be fine. First off, I would suggest letting a stylist work with your hair – it might never be able to look exactly like the photos. More importantly, why do you have to decide now??? Your tastes may change in the next TWO YEARS. No need to carve anything in stone now. Hell, my idea changed in 2 months – I thought I wanted half-up, half-down, but once it started getting warm out I realized that all up was the way to go.
Post # 5
If you keep going like this you’re going to give yourself a stroke long before 2014.
Post # 6
You totally have time to keep searching! And NEVER feel the need to settle on a hair & makeup person, just keep hunting for the perfect fit – you’ll find it!
Post # 7
Does Smithville have a room for everyone to use to get ready for makeup and hair? Is it just for you or the BP and Moms as well? What time is everything scheduled to begin?
Lots of stylists will travel, so try not to get crazy right now. Not sure about charges for trials (some do and some don’t), but I know several who may/will be available.
Are you sure you want to do trials right now since the wedding is still so far away? You may change your mind a million times before then.
Post # 8
Awe hun, I hope you take a day off of wedding planning so you can feel refreshed to start again. I am a makeup artist in Miami, and most brides don’t book their makeup services unless they are 5 months away. The pictures you are showing are gorgeous & I’m sure that the right hair & makeup team will make you look BEAUTIFUL for your wedding day.
aimee from chicmakeupbyaimee.com
Post # 9
I’m trying to be realistic and I know I’m adding the stress on to myself when i don’t need to but I hate that all the stylists have made it seem like I’ll be SOL if I wait until next year.
Post # 10
@oneofthesethings: That’s very true…. I have to just keep telling myself to breath and worry about it later.
Post # 11
I’d love her contact info. Most people I’ve contacted would be about 2-3 hours away.
I will try not to stress about this now but putting it off worries me but that’s probably because they’ve somehow all made me feel like waiting until the year of is a bad idea :/
Post # 12
@SnurfMurph86: I honestly thought I was going to have one 10 min before typing that out. I need a chill pill that’s for sure.
Post # 13
@ItWasntMe: They have a bridal suite for the bride and the BMs to get ready and I suppose I am going to wait for trials since what everyone else is saying is what I’ve known but i guess i needed reassurance AGAINST what the vendors were telling me. I just wanted to get an idea of pricing but i know that will change next year too probably so I am better off waiting.
Thank you everyone I just felt like I would be making a mistake by waiting but I know it can be done…something will end up working out for me.
Post # 14
why not concentrate on finding a good stylist fornow and worry about wedding plans much closer to wedding. Instead of focusing on what styles people have on their sites start using different people to cut/style over the next year and if anyone stands out ask about their availability.
I would be worried that since most hair/mua are independant they wouldnt be around when it was wedding time. if you book w a solon thete is the chance of that girl leaving etc.
Post # 15
Please don’t stress out; you’ll find someone. This is the time to enjoy the process and every moment, at least that’s what I keep telling my stressed-out daughter too….lol. She’s getting married 3/23/14.
Relax and breathe, you have plenty of time. Remember to ask for references from recent weddings and pictures. And if they don’t call back for respond to emails, move on – you’re right when you say it’s unprofessional. The last thing you want if for a stylist to be a no show the day of your wedding.
It will work out – I wish you all the best.