- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
(Sorry it is a lil long) Ok….so, I am planning on sending our wedding invitations out this Saturday but instead of feeling excited and happy, I feel stressed, scared, nervous & all sorts of other weird feelings. Why? Here are a few reasons.
#1) My MIL called my FI the other day and the conversation went something like this:
MIL: Hi honey, I was calling to make sure you invited Lily to the wedding
FI: Mom, we haven’t sent the invites out yet….but who is Lily?
MIL: What do you mean who is Lily? She is your cousin!
FI: I have a cousin named Lily?
MIL: Of course you do! You mean you are not sending her an invitation?
FI: Mom, how could I send an invitation to someone I don’t know and who I never even knew exsisted?
MIL: But she is your cousin!
FI: Ok, but a cousin I have never met in my entire life and I am 36!
MIL: Well, she knows you are getting married and I told her she was invited so you need to send her an invitation.
FI: Mom, we already had our invitations printed and we do not have any extras. And besides, we had to cut down our guest list because of our finances. I lost my job remember? We even had to exclude some family members that we actually do know!
MIL: Well I already told her she was invited so if she shows up, I don’t know what you are going to do.
OMG…..after he told me this, I was so shocked I couldn’t even speak for at least 2 whole minutes! Then he says, “you know my Mom is just like this and so are all of my aunts so I am sure after the invites go out, there will be more issues”. When he said this….it suddenly came to me that he was right! So here comes…..reason
#2 We had attended a familly gathering a couple months ago and one of his aunts asked me how the wedding plans were coming along. I mentioned to her that we were going to have to exclude children from the wedding (my FI had just gotten laid off so we had to cut down on a lot of things) and she responded by rolling her eyes and then looked away from me. Obviously, this was her way of letting me know her dissaproval of this.
#3 When one of his sisters got wind of our “No Children” decision, she told my FI “Well, what am I supposed to do with my kids if they can’t come” (She has 4. And yes, she is married so she has in-laws that I do not know and are not coming to our wedding so I am sure she can ask her MIL or one of her SIL’s)
So needless to say, if all of this (as well as a few other things that I haven’t mentioned) has already happened BEFORE the invites have even gone out, I can only imagine all the issues that will come up when people open their invites and see “Adult only Reception” OR when they find out X…Y…Z were not invited. Ugh….
Did anyone have issues like this….if so, please share how you handled it. How did you respond? What exactly did you say? I think if I feel prepared to respond to what is coming my way, I will not feel so horrible like I do know. Please help!