Post # 1
but FH really wants a wedding.
I know he really wants to have an actual ceremony but he’s told me he would only be happy if I were happy.
I feel like such a freak bride! I have a million other things on my mind as we’re getting married over Christmas break or have to wait until the end of next summer (financially). If I put off the wedding itself till the later date, I will still be LDR with my fiance for months longer than we were anticipating (another circumstance we can’t avoid).
I want to be with him and be happy with him and God knows I can’t wait to be married to him. But I feel so third-party-ish about planning this whole stinkin’ thing right now. I’m no longer excited. With all his family drama and my extended family saying they won’t be there and all my friends spread far and wide…. it’s really a sucky situation for me. Our original wedding date is in 3 months and I want to go ahead with it but I am just so ready for it to be over.
We have a very small budget and I’m just thinking it may be good for us to NOT have a wedding at all and just elope. I’m doing everything with either my mom or myself and don’t feel special at all during this whole planning process. I don’t have any girl friends or relatives who would come alongside me and show support during this time.
I hate the mentality that I should be so excited/happy when I’m really not. I love my man to pieces and want to marry him and start a life together. I SO wish I could do this without a wedding though. It just feels like another day to me right now.
Post # 3
Oh man, you sound exactly like me. Well, minus all the family drama, since thankfully there hasn’t been much of that so far.
I wanted a small, intimate ceremony followed by a dinner reception. Nothing weddingy, really, just wanted to be able to include immediate family and closest friends. Now, we are having an event. It’s starting to seriously stress me out. But it’s what fiance wants, and it’s his day too, and we are kind of set on doing it this way now.
With the family drama, though, I can totally understand how you feel. I would not be excited about my wedding either with all that going on. Just try to hang in there as best you can until it’s over, and focus on the exciting part: at the end of it you get to be married to your fiance. It’s just something you have to get through for the best part to begin.
Wish I had something more constructive to say. Just wanted to commiserate and offer some warm fuzzies that will hopefully brighten your day just a bit.
Post # 4
Aww! I am sorry you have no gf’s nearby. If it helps I am feeling apethic too. I have been to sick to get much done. Today I couldn’t make it down the aisle in my pj’s. I just don’t have the energy.
Post # 5
You could always elope now, and then do a reception later on, so you both get what you want
Post # 6
First off, hello date twin:) You don’t say how many people you are supposed to be inviting, but is there a way to trim the guest list and have something halfway between an elopement and a regular ceremony? That way you both get a little of what you want. He gets the feel of real wedding and you don’t deal with so much stress and preparation.
And right now you may feel like it’s any other day, but no matter what kind of ceremony you end up with, by the time that day dawns, it will feel special. The good news is, you are excited to marry him and that’s the most important part.
Post # 7
@PutABirdOnIt: yup. we’re having a small ceremony because that’s all we can afford. maybe 50 people tops. hardly any of that will be my friends and family because my family is either dead or friends cannot make it. :/
I AM excited to BE married to him. Which does make me feel better that it’s not cold feet. 😛 Yay date twin!
Post # 8
@SimplyChic11: 50 is pretty manageable and yay for not having cold feet! I have a very strong feeling you will be really happy and manage to have fun, even if your family and friends aren’t going to be represented. Sorry about your family-that is a bummer:(