Post # 1
Just letting off steam… apologies in advance for this… My wedding dress budget is something in the $500-600 range, +/-100. I know this is really low, but I can’t fathom spending like $1000+ on a dress for myself. I thought it would be workable, but now I’m not so sure. I am on the verge of getting a replica custom made by Jasmine’s in China, but I feel nervous about dropping my entire budget and then waiting blindly for something that has the potential to turn out poorly.
I just got back from a trip to David’s Bridal, and all the dresses (up to $1000) were underwhelming and so MEH… none of them made me look any better than even my own cocktail dresses that I’ve worn before. There was a moment when I was wearing a taffeta gown that had a skirt with the texture of a shower curtain and almost started crying. My mom lives out of town, and I don’t want my bridesmaids involved in this (believe me, it’ll make it worse), so I’ve been going at it alone. I send photos and pictures back and forth over email with my mom – she has all these ideas and requests of what she thinks a wedding dress should look like. She basically wants something very design-forward and non-generic, with embellishments (she thinks the J Crew gowns are too simple and not like wedding dresses), and also flatters my figure. What she wants costs at least $1000.
I’m really busy, go to school full time and work too, so I don’t have time to go to boutiques and try things on again and again. I just wanted something simple and comfortable and flattering. My mom knows what looks good on me, so she is right, and I want to respect her opinion. Maybe I’ll just go with Jasmine’s and hope luck is on my side? Go with a used gown (I really wanted to avoid this)? Any advice or support would be great. Thanks ladies.
Post # 2
I went to a bridal salon and tried on a bunch of designer gowns. I chose a Maggie Sottero that retailed for about 1400. It was gorgeous, the material was beautiful, I’ve never worn something so luxurious. Then I ended up purchasing the same gown used, online, for 500. You still get the luxurious materials of the more expensive gowns, at a fraction of the cost. If you go with Jasmines it will likely be a much cheaper material than the original you want replicated. It’s one route to consider. If you do decide to go the used route be cautious and ask the seller about alterations and for photos to show the current condition. The dress I purchased is just as gorgeous as the one I tried on in the salon. I’m so glad I saved all that money!
Post # 3
Is your mom helping with the cost since she has so much opinion about what type of dress you should get?
Post # 4
xtals: I actually went through what you are doing now. I couldn’t for the life of me justify spending that much on a dress to wear one night. I finally got frustrated enough to order from Dressilyme. (Also a shop in China) I got it custom ordered and with the price of the dress, custom sizing, and shipping it was under $275!! It fits fantastic. No alterations needed, except for a bustle. From what I’ve seen as long as the dress is pretty simple and not too much deviation from the website, the dresses come out great. It is hit or miss and you have to be willing (or at the point of never wanting to go to another dress salon) to put the trust in someone overseas…. Good luck
Post # 5
Thanks for taking the time to reply, ladies. I really appreciate it. smirkypox: Thanks for the idea! I’ve been on Tradesy and Ebay for about 2 weeks now, it seems like it’s really the luck of the draw. I always feel nervous going to the upscale bridal boutiques with no intention of buying anything though… purrrbaby: She is offering to help with the cost, but I don’t want to spend $1000 no matter whose money it is… FutureMrsLarson: Thanks! I’m thinking about it still, or maybe using Etsy since you can pay with Paypal and they are not as confusing/overloaded with orders… we’ll see.
Post # 6
xtals: I went in to the upscale bridal botiques with the same budget as you with a couple month timeline. They were able to pull a surprising amount of dresses that fell within range that I could buy the samples of. It might be worth a shot? I would go midweek when they weren’t busy.
Post # 7
Consider looking at prom gowns orderable in ivory/white. It will be lower price for more embellishment. Less construction, less quality material…… Don’t order “replica” (read-counterfeit) online. Too risky and you are supporting illegal activity. For something to be made non counterfeit at least 3 major changes need to be made. Just FYI…..
Post # 8
xtals: also try preownedweddingdresses.com and church street bridal. I got my dress for $800 from the last minute bride on preo wend wedding dresses and my veil from CSB.
Post # 10
Check out Siri Bridal,she is based in San Francisco, but I was able to find her dresses on the East Coast, and they had quite a few dresses under the $1000 price point
Post # 9
I was also going to recommend preownedweddingdresses.com, but also check out nearlynewlywed.com for used dresses – they vet them to make sure they’re in good condition, etc., I think. And you can order three, try them on at home, and send back the ones you don’t want. (I think there’s a charge if you choose none of them.)
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2015 - Allerton Mansion
I got my dress recently from a bridal consignment boutique. Almost 90% of the dresses the store carries are designer brands that are brand new from regular bridal stores. I got my dress for about $700 less than it would have been at a bridal store, and it was brand new. See if there are any bridal consignments by you – there seem to be a lot popping up!
Post # 12
Totally hear you about budget! I think you’re being very sensible to keep your budget reasonable. Try local bridal consignment stores and Craigslist. My second choice was a dress from a local consignment bridal store. It was a 2013 gown for $600! I didn’t buy it in the end because I needed more alterations than my first choice.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle
I was lucky that the dress i fell in love with online was discontinued and onsale when i went so i got it for just over half price! Know what you want and like then try and find it on sale?..
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
A lot of bridesmaid dresses are available in white or ivory and are a load cheaper than wedding dresses – could be worth exploring.
Post # 15
Hey. Idk what size you are but I have a dress for sale. I haven’t worn it because I decided it was too flashy. I spent over 1200 on it. I would sell it to anyone if they gave be $200 dollars and covered the shipping cost. It’s a size 8
<h5>Tulle Ballgown with Champagne Lining and Beading Style CWG468</h5>
<h4><strong id=”collection”>Oleg Cassini</h4>