(Closed) I am so happy I found this website!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
Member
78 posts
Worker bee

@lilymarie23:  I understand!  I’m nearly 30 and have been with my SO since college.  I’m happy and still in love after all this time, but some days waiting makes me so frustrated!  

Hope you managed to have a good time at the wedding despite your frustrations!  

Post # 5
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1468 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Welcome! I was glad to find this site when I did too, but it definitiely influenced me. It empowered me in a way, and I still haven’t decided if that was a good or bad thing. I couldn’t take waiting…and I only waited a year (together for 3). I nagged, hinted, warned, complained, got upset. He finally proposed, like a week after one of my meltdowns, and he had been planning the proposal all along. Now I regret nagging him so much, I should’ve trusted him more. I can’t tell you not to nag, because it’s been 7 years and you have a house together. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn’t be able to wait that long without bringing it up every other day. You’re a saint. But if you can wait without prodding, you will feel so much better that it happened on his own accord. There’s a also slight chance you’ll have the “It’s about time!” reaction, but either way it’ll be awesome.

Here’s to hoping it’ll happen soon! 

Post # 7
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597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Welcome! I’m glad you stumbled into the Hive! πŸ™‚ 

I’m sorry to hear about your situation, some guys get very jittery whenever weddings come around. Has he ever even mentioned getting married? Or do you guys talk about the future in a non commital type way? Maybe he doesn’t really believe in marraige but thinks love is enough and to each their own. 

I would just casually ask him whenever he calls you wedding obsessed if you should even think about weddings if he’s ever going to propose? 

His response to your very NORMAL behavior makes me wonder if he even has any such plans… 

Best wishes and keep us updated! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 9
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Welcome to the hive.  =)

Post # 10
Member
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

@lilymarie23:  Welcome!!

Seriously his nana told you that?! Hey it must be nice to know they like you that much, they really want you to be an official part of the family!

Hey we got engaged after 7 years and 10 months together, the wait’s worth it. =)

Post # 12
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Ugh i was in the same boat but not as bad.  My FI and I have been together for three years and he isn’t into the whole marriage thing, his family is full of divorse.  But I love weddings and marriage, my dream since I was child has been to be a wife!  After three years of holding in wedding talk completly (my family thought i was crazy to talk about a wedding when I wasn’t even engaged) i’m like why not, it’ll happen eventually!!!  Anyways my FI finally came to realization that I wasn’t going to be happy without a marriage (he would have been ok going the Gean Simons route) and proposed!!!! Thank goodness because it was getting really hard not to beg him to propose since my best friend just got married. No ring yet though πŸ™  now I can talk to him about our wedding, which is in 3 years, but my family still seems to think i’m crazy because its so far away and in their mind no ring=no engagment, what turds, but they will come around eventually.  But thank god for this site because now I have people other then my FI to be excited for me and help me through my plans that are already running through my head.  We’re here for you and I’m sure your SO will figure come around soon enough πŸ™‚ and during those tough moments where you feel like your about to pass out from holding breath so you don’t bug him, just know we’re good listeners and will do our best to help you

Post # 14
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276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

its funny that you say guys get jittery at weddings, my guys is the COMPLETE opposite! every wedding we’ve ever been at he’ll make comments like “oh our wedding is going to be so much better” “or we’ll play this type of music at our wedding” yada yada.. to the point where i get mad at him! (especially after a few drinks ;)…a i’m like yeah well maybe we should get engaged before we plan our wedding.. or i’ll say “oh yeah? what wedding?” didn’t know we were engaged… haha… its sooooooo frustrating!

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