Post # 1
Ladies I need a serious dose of “stop obsessing”
I know we both want it, we’re both excited for it and weve had all of the necessary conversations.
Now he’s asked me to please forget it and let him surprise me whenever the time comes
Control Freak here so that’s like asking me to stop breathing!!
I can’t stop thinking of when it might be, how he might do it, daydreaming about making the announcement and all the celebrations
Any tips on how to enjoy this anticipation period?? Because I know I’ll miss it when it’s over
Post # 3
@Brownbear23: For me I was the same way for a while but what I found to help me relax and stop stressing was to keep myself busy, Ex. watching movies, cooking, hanging out with friends, going shopping, or just being around my SO without marriage talk, after awhile I really did stop stressing and talking about it, and now he’s the one who can’t stop talking about it lol. Hope I could help.
Post # 4
@Brownbear23: I think it might be possible that my SO is obsessing on his own. I took my own little SHUT IT UP pact and refuse to bring it up. I might indulge conversation a little if he mentions it. Which actually, he mentions it all the time. What I do is try to think in the future about retelling the proposal story and I want to be able to say “I HAD NO IDEA!!” so I put the “When? Where? How?” out of my mind. Just trust that it is coming soon enough Enjoy the calm before the wedding-planning storm! Try to imagine him sweating it out trying to plan when and where and buying a ring. I tend to get caught up in how I feel in all of this and forget how he must feel. He must be so nervous! So definitely try not to talk about it with him and let the surprise just come.
When all else fails…talk to us!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
I feel like I’m in the same boat as you ladies. I channel it all into Wedding Bee.. which I have to say makes it worse in many ways. It doesn’t help that my best friend just got engaged. I am constantly talking about weddings!! I love it but at the same time it adds to the dose of craziness.
My problem is that we’ve talked about custom rings, and we haven’t brought it up again since I told him the quote. The store asked that I be involved until the wax process, so I’m not sure if he’s getting his finances in order first THEN will bring it up again, or if he is going down his own path to keep the surprise element. Not saying anything or asking him is just about driving me mental with impatience.
I’m just trying to breathe, enjoy this time period and figure out exactly what I want for our wedding so I can bang off as many decisions early into planning and get DIYing 🙂
Post # 6
@ThinkAboutYou09: yes! The keeping busy!
@MissRuthie: you’re so right I want to be surprised so I need to stop! I guess it’s just hard not knowing cos I’m the planner of our pairing! But I gotta trust him to do a great job huh?
In the meantime the Bee is my saviour 🙂
Post # 7
@missamysmiles: we’re an impatient bunch, the poor guys! I hope we can relax and enjoy this time, just think we’ll never be girlfriends again once those words are spoken!
Post # 8
I feel the exact same way. im DYING!!!!
The ring is coming from his cousin thats a jeweler, and the only thing i know is:
He is looking for a stone. and I have no input on the ring unless when I get it if i dont like it we can discuss.
Come visit the Bee everyday…thats what keeping me sane.
Post # 9
@Brownbear23: read what the brides-to-be are stressing about and then you might just appreciate waiting a little bit more.
Post # 10
@Brownbear23: I have absolutely no tips for you because I am the exact same way! Just wanted you to know you’re not alone.. and if I figure anything out I will definitely share 🙂
Post # 11
I’ve been throwing myself into work. I already keep myself busy enough, but if I keep working tons (we’re in crunch time anyway) I don’t have time to think about it. Good luck!
Post # 12
I took this from a different post I wrote a while ago, but it applies here so…:
Two things to enjoy whilst waiting:
1) All of your “lasts” your last spring as boyfriend/girlfriend. Your last Christmas, your last birthday. All of those lasts in this fleeting moment as boyfriend/girlfriend. You’ll be married for most of your life! Enjoy this time now.
2) Plan without having to plan. Spend time on Pintrest and wedding bee and enjoy weddings without having to make any plans! You won’t get this chance again to get ideas without the pressure to make decisions and phone calls.