- 6 years ago
I love my Fi. I do. But god, I am so angry right now. Fiance just sold his truck to a buyer and is starting to liquidate some of his assets. (see origional posting) http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/just-found-out-fi-is-in-a-load-of-debt-now-what
This is good news. I am HAPPY he sold his truck. That is 5 K to go towards his 60 plus K of debt (If I dont include the van he bought that we both agreed to use together).
I have been depressed all week. I have defintely racked in too many hours on the wedding bee and just internet surfing..couch surfing. He has gone to a credit counsellor. He has taken the steps so far to prove that he is serious about cleaning up this mess.
But I still feel like a big mess, a mess of let downs and disappointment and just ANGRY. I try to ignore this. I try to just be happy, move forward, I am trying to get another job, he has applied for a tonne of jobs. This STILL doesnt change the fact that the next three years minimum will be spent paying this DOWN so we ca then SAVE to buy a house and also our dreams of having invitro are pretty much out the window. I was telling everyone we were planning on TTC in the New year…he can’t afford to put that money aside, let alone bring a child in to the house–hold on, WE Can’t afford it now. We are going to be paying that debt down HARD to get out of this revolving credit MESS he created.
So yes, I am MAD. I feel betrayed. Annoyed. I finally told one of my friends today about it and she was shocked-she said he waited to fully disclose until after you said YES, now you are kinda stuck…aren’t you? I mean, I don’t want to think he waited… idon’t think he meant it like that (or at least hope he didn’t) but omg.
AND, the credit counsellor advised him to sign the business over to ME and move the money we have in our business account to a different bank that doesn’t also have a 30K line of credit looming over HIS head that he has to pay somehow.
I told him I looked into this and that I figured this was the case, that IF he misses payments, the bank can go after OUR bank account or freeze them which means *I* dont get paid or feed MY kids.
So that gets me FURIOUS. Absolutely FURIOUS.
How could he do this and rack this up?
Sorry…all this emotion is coming out and anger because he just BBmd me how happy he is he just sold the truck and has a cheque in his hand (he is out of town and delivering it) and I just totally lost it…
I told him while he is at his mothers, he should ask for the 30K he gave her because now his future wife and her son can’t HAVE A LIFE because she also took advantage of him and took his CC and claimed to have no money and told him some sob story so he paid her mortgage and bills for MONTHS…
and then ohh…she has magical money all of asudden when he tells her he is out of money and cant keep supportin her.
I love him , but I wish sometimes, like right now, I hadnt said Yes. I wish I had known. I dont know if it would have changed anything, but at least maybe delayed the wedding. I cant go through with the embarrassment of moving the wedding date and postponing, since we already have people who have booked plane tickets, and clients coming, I am already embarrassed t oSH! About this.
We can’t even lease a house, let alone buy one right now, so we are living in my rental. Some success story we are right now. UGh.
I feel like the biggest loser alive.