Post # 1
Ok so the backstory is… my fiancé thinks he is going to be spending the weekend with all his guy friends at one of their houses watching movies, gaming, etc and having a guy weekend. They are actually going to surprise him with his bachelor party to a cabin in the mountains for the weekend. I know this, but he does not. He won’t find out until they pick him up this evening.
So… he does know that all of his friends were going to be there. It was a big deal because one flew in from across the country for Christmas with his family, and another is back from university a few hours away. So they haven’t (all 9 of them, friends since junior high) had a good old fashioned guys hangout for a looooooong time – years.
As we are out doing errands today, my fiancé is getting messages in his group chat with all these guys that one of them can’t come anymore. Why? Because his bitch of a wife doesn’t want him to go. She KNOWS it’s a bachelor party, but she is telling her husband he can’t come. Because she just got home from spending Christmas with her family and now doesn’t want him to leave. Ummm bitch? You ditched your husband for Christmas and now he’s not allowed to go somewhere for a one time bachelor party?
I am FURIOUS. My fiancé isn’t as upset right now because he obviously doesn’t know it’s his bachelor party yet, but I do. I know he’s going to be so hurt that one of his best friends isn’t going to be there. And for such a ridiculous reason. I seriously want to drive over to their house and punch this fucking bitch in the face. She is such a major cunt, and I don’t use that word often. But she really is. She is a high-horse-riding-thinks-she’s-so-superior-because-I-only-buy-organic-and-can-my-own-jam stuck up bitch. I’ve always disliked her but I could kill her right now I hate her so much.
Yes, obviously the husband needs to ball up and make his own decisions but the fact that she even made that request of him shows what a cunt she is. She knows full well that she’s making him skip his best friend’s bachelor party because she would be too lonely.
Maybe I should uninvite her from the wedding since she values her husband’s friendships so little. I won’t, because I won’t stoop to her level, but I really hope she doesn’t come. It actually wouldn’t surprise me if she told her husband last minute that she wasn’t feeling well and doesn’t want to attend the wedding…
Ugh I just needed to vent that out. And I feel so bad for my fiancé who is going to be very disappointed tonight. It’s just not fair!
Post # 3
@Pinkmoon: I’m sorry I have no advice but I did laugh out loud at the ‘can-my-own-jam’ description!! I know just the type of person you mean!!
Post # 4
Maybe she doesn’t want him to go to a strip club? You may not know the whole story, being on the outside looking in. Perhaps she has a good reason to request he stay home.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Pinkmoon: ugh that sucks. I hate codependent women like that. If I were you, and I’m not sure this is the best advice because it might be a little busy-body… but I would call the friend and tell him how much it will mean to your FI to have him there. (Assuming he’s at least a decent friend of yours, too?) Apply a little counter-guilt-trip, or a lot if necessary. That’s what I’d do.
Post # 7
Ugh, that is so frustrating! The only thing I can think of that would make it not so bad is, as a PP suggested, if they’re going to have strippers or something else that she might be uncomfortable with. But if it’s just fun weekend, she’s a huge jerk for making one of your FI’s friends miss it. As someone who rides horses and buys organic, I resent her for giving us a bad name.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@Pinkmoon: I’m sorry this is happening, but I do think you’re being a little extreme. I don’t know this woman. I don’t know the whole picture. But maybe you don’t either. Maybe there’s something else going on here for why she needs her husband to stay home. And like you said, it’s his decision to stay with his wife or go to his friend’s bachelor party. I think it’s unreasonable to be so upset at her and not at all upset at him when he’s the one who is going to make the final decision. In any event, I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. Getting all upset over this is only going to hurt you. I’m sure your FI will still have a fantastic time with the rest of his friends.
Post # 9
@Pinkmoon: The only solution to your problem is to do something really childish and futile in retaliation….send a strip o gram to their house…you’ll feel better.
Post # 10
OP you are little extreme on the whole thing. We only know the story you told us and maybe yourself do know not know the whole story as to why he can’t go. Honestly I would just let it drop.
Post # 11
Considering there are a lot of women on this website who demand that their husbands not go to a bachelor party…
I find this post humorous. I wouldn’t tell my husband he couldn’t go. I just find this whole situation funny considering where you’re posting it. I wouldn’t disinvite her from the wedding though.
Post # 12
@Nona99: Hahahaha yes.
No, there’s no strippers. This is a little mountain town cabin and they’re just gonna do what they were going to do here in the city – video games, movies, sports, etc. These guys enjoy that a lot more than strippers.
Post # 13
@IheartUFC: 🙁 but they’re not going to a strip club, they’re going to a cabin in the mountains 🙁
@Pinkmoon: This really stinks 🙁
Post # 14
I want to just point out that you don’t know that she is just doing this to be a c-nt as you state. This is her husband and there be something more important where he is needed. What if this woman is sick or has a crisis she needs his help with?
A bachelor party isn’t the end all of everything – it would only be a big deal if the friend didn’t go to the wedding just because the wife didn’t want to go.
Try to think of yourself in this kind of situation. Lets just imagine there is something really important you will need your husband for some day and at the same time there was a bachelor party he was supposed to go to – would you rather him support you in your time of need or run off to this party? Don’t assume she is manipulating him for the sake of ruining the party. Even if he says she is making him not go he may just be using it as an excuse when it is his choice to not attend.
I had a miscarriage once when my FI was supposed to go out of town for a trip with his best friend, he cancelled on his friends planned trip (friend was furious) because he couldn’t bear to leave me in that kind of situation alone. He of course couldn’t tell his friend what the reason was so I bet you anything his friend/friends gf was convinced I was doing what you think this woman is doing.
Post # 15
Would it be at all beneficial for you to call the wife and explain the plan to her? You know woman to woman?
I am pretty independent from DH and I wouldn’t have an issue with him going to a bachelor party but then again he knows my feelings on strip clubs. Considering that she is in the dark (because he probably didn’t share the story/details) it might help for her to know that it is a cabin with a bunch of guys sans strippers.
Post # 16
I see where you guys are coming from, and no you don’t know the whole story. And neither do I because I’m obviously not part of this couple. But I DO know this woman, and I know that she’s a grade A bitch. So I am extra sensitive when she does things like this.