I am SO MAD right now!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5482 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Pinkmoon:  I’m sorry I have no advice but I did laugh out loud at the ‘can-my-own-jam’ description!! I know just the type of person you mean!! 

Post # 4
547 posts
Busy bee

Maybe she doesn’t want him to go to a strip club?  You may not know the whole story, being on the outside looking in. Perhaps she has a good reason to request he stay home.

Post # 6
8847 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@Pinkmoon:  ugh that sucks.  I hate codependent women like that.  If I were you, and I’m not sure this is the best advice because it might be a little busy-body… but I would call the friend and tell him how much it will mean to your FI to have him there.  (Assuming he’s at least a decent friend of yours, too?)  Apply a little counter-guilt-trip, or a lot if necessary.  That’s what I’d do.

@MrsBluth:  bahahaha!

Post # 7
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Ugh, that is so frustrating!  The only thing I can think of that would make it not so bad is, as a PP suggested, if they’re going to have strippers or something else that she might be uncomfortable with.  But if it’s just fun weekend, she’s a huge jerk for making one of your FI’s friends miss it.  As someone who rides horses and buys organic, I resent her for giving us a bad name.

Post # 8
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@Pinkmoon:  I’m sorry this is happening, but I do think you’re being a little extreme.  I don’t know this woman.  I don’t know the whole picture.  But maybe you don’t either.  Maybe there’s something else going on here for why she needs her husband to stay home.  And like you said, it’s his decision to stay with his wife or go to his friend’s bachelor party.  I think it’s unreasonable to be so upset at her and not at all upset at him when he’s the one who is going to make the final decision.  In any event, I like to give people the benefit of the doubt.  Getting all upset over this is only going to hurt you.  I’m sure your FI will still have a fantastic time with the rest of his friends.

Post # 9
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Pinkmoon:  The only solution to your problem is to do something really childish and futile in retaliation….send a strip o gram to their house…you’ll feel better.

Post # 10
6631 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Christy42213:  +1

OP you are little extreme on the whole thing.  We only know the story you told us and maybe yourself do know not know the whole story as to why he can’t go.  Honestly I would just let it drop. 

Post # 11
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Considering there are a lot of women on this website who demand that their husbands not go to a bachelor party…

I find this post humorous. I wouldn’t tell my husband he couldn’t go. I just find this whole situation funny considering where you’re posting it. I wouldn’t disinvite her from the wedding though.

Post # 13
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@IheartUFC:  🙁 but they’re not going to a strip club, they’re going to a cabin in the mountains 🙁

 @Pinkmoon:  This really stinks 🙁

Post # 14
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I want to just point out that you don’t know that she is just doing this to be a c-nt as you state. This is her husband and there be something more important where he is needed. What if this woman is sick or has a crisis she needs his help with? 

A bachelor party isn’t the end all of everything – it would only be a big deal if the friend didn’t go to the wedding just because the wife didn’t want to go.

Try to think of yourself in this kind of situation. Lets just imagine there is something really important you will need your husband for some day and at the same time there was a bachelor party he was supposed to go to – would you rather him support you in your time of need or run off to this party? Don’t assume she is manipulating him for the sake of ruining the party. Even if he says she is making him not go he may just be using it as an excuse when it is his choice to not attend.

I had a miscarriage once when my FI was supposed to go out of town for a trip with his best friend, he cancelled on his friends planned trip (friend was furious) because he couldn’t bear to leave me in that kind of situation alone. He of course couldn’t tell his friend what the reason was so I bet you anything his friend/friends gf was convinced I was doing what you think this woman is doing.


Post # 15
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Would it be at all beneficial for you to call the wife and explain the plan to her? You know woman to woman?

I am pretty independent from DH and I wouldn’t have an issue with him going to a bachelor party but then again he knows my feelings on strip clubs. Considering that she is in the dark (because he probably didn’t share the story/details) it might help for her to know that it is a cabin with a bunch of guys sans strippers.


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