(Closed) Closed!!!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, I’d say that was a pretty jerk thing to say…

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some people do mouth off without thinking. But reallly… wasn’t she paying attention in sex ed when they said men don’t have menopause?

Post # 7
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7796 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My husband’s a little older than 45, and there are no performance issues in our bedroom 🙂

Post # 8
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2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

In part, totally inappropriate, especially the comment about age.

But the second one could have come from a place of concern or trying to “educate” you. Without being there its hard to know if she was being mean, stupid or thinking she was giving you unsolicited advice. 

Lots of advice is meant with good intentions, whether or not we want to hear it or its true. Try looking at the intention, not the outcome.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

you should have told her ” you’d be suprised what a young buck he really is.” Then slaped her.

J.k j.k

it was quite rude but just shake it off!=] enjoy having such a mature man!

andto be honest my parents had a 16 year age differace and ( dad isn’t my dad biologically) if my mom hadn’t already had me she never would have- my dad wasn’t able to have kids and after 40 they wouldn’t let him adopt cause he was “to old”….

so it was sad but I’m a brat and glad I never had to share my parents! =] haa!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

FFIL tells FH and I that we need to hurry up and have kids and we are both 22 and neither of us wants kids.

It’s ridiculous. Since getting engaged I’ve realized that people suddenly think that  your personal life is their business and they need to give you advice on how to live it and set you a timeline for everything…

Post # 14
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Helper bee

We are living longer these days and becoming a parent at a later stage is life is definitely more common. Unfortunately some people still expect people to have a complete family by their late 20’s/early 30’s when in reality a lot of people aren’t even married by 30!

Interestingly as men age, so does their sperm and increased paternal age does have risk factors for children that are just being discovered now. 

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

DELETED MYSELF>>> THAT WAS THE WRONG LINK!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrs.Happiness:  I didnt say she was right or that the timing was right, but depending on how she said it, it could have been meant with good intentions. I dont know her, or you or the circumstances so from an outsiders perspective you try to look at all the possibilities.

I have gotten lots of bad advice with bad timing, some have been malicious, others have simply been because of bad tact. It can be tough to take a step back, but if its possible it may be possible she was only rude, but not mean.

And she does have some basis in her concern, if its true concern. Older men’s spern can increase risks of certain problems. Just saying she may be actually trying to help. Give her benefit of the doubt

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