I am so over this stupid wedding.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@HeyKaraoke:  is it too late to cancel the big wedding and elope? you’d feel sooo much better doing it your way. we had a destination wedding with a handful of guests and we have never looked back and regretted anything!! it’s never too late to do it your way if it’;s really what you want xx

Post # 4
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Sigh! [e-hugs!]
I was in your shoes too.. I eventually told FI that I want to just elope and forget about having our families there! They’re getting on my nerves lol. It’s your day, your life, your marriage. Do what you guys want to do. You’re the ones that have to live with your decisions– not anyone else!
Good luck! 

Post # 5
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3237 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

🙁 I’m sorry you are having such a hard time. I felt the exact same way, I hated it so much. At about two months I just stopped planning. Seriously, all of the big stuff was taken care of and everything else was just ‘extra’ crap that I didn’t need.

My wedding day was perfect and I was much more relaxed then I would have been.

 

Post # 6
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670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@HeyKaraoke:  Ugh… I feel as though I could have written this myself.. Hang in there, girl.. we don’t have much longer till its over and we can get on with our lives.

Post # 7
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2973 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@HeyKaraoke:  Ugh. I hear you. I’m sorry you feel this way, but I completely understand & feel the same. 

It’s like you’re being forced to be happy and plan and be stressed about something that you did not want, nor care for. It feels like it’s no longer for you (well it’s not for you, because you didn’t want one!).

Sorry hon. I’ve got no advice whatsoever. Just suck it up I guess 😛 That’s what I’m doing. 

/on to trying to explain to FMIL that I DO NOT WANT A BRIDAL SHOWER. Sigh. 

Post # 8
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Just take a deep breath. I was in your shoes too, not about the family but I just disliked all the stress that the planning brought on. My fiancé and I had a talk about it and decided that we don’t care about what anyone wants, especially because everyone has their opinions. A wedding is supposed to be between you and your loved one and it is important to keep that in mind. When I get stressed out my fiancé always tells me, “It’s us against the world!” Try to focus less on your family and more on you and your FI.

Post # 9
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Word.
I know how you feel.

You will be married and that’s awesome.
It’s almost over!

Post # 11
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Old Stone House in Brookyn

I’m at a point now where there are still a lot of details I want to do, but nothing I HAVE to do and it feels awesome. If you have the venue, catering, officient and music booked, you might as well take a break from planning until you feel up for it. No one will think less of your wedding if you don’t have the perfect favors or centerpieces.

Post # 13
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2973 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@HeyKaraoke:  Beats me. She keeps saying “Aww but you need one! It’s your special day! Let people spoil you! Besides, it’s pretty much a custom and a rite of passage.”

uhm NO. Just because you were sat down in the middle of a room full of people you barely know and felt silly opening present after present does not mean I have to do it!

Besides, this wedding is for you people (meaning my parents and his parents) and really no one else cares about this wedding other than you people. The ones being made to buy me a present (still can’t get over this concept) are probably there just out of respect but deep inside their heads are thinking “That should be my daughter/son getting married!” 

/end rant. lol

I’m happy that you came up with a new happy medium! 🙂 Let us know how it goes and good luck!

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