- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
So FI is not close his parents at all. He was actually raised by his grandma while his brother was raised by his parents. So naturally he is closer to his grandma and calls her mom. I love her. She is sweet! His mom, not so much. She is very churchy and everything she says is “oh I prayed for this or that” “thank the lord” etc. I am not putting anyone down who is that way. But when it’s basically thrown in your face from the moment you see her till you leave it makes you not want to be around. She also is constantly shopping and buying things that they do not need. She does not work and FI’s dad retired and he is still working his butt off. They have not asked to help out in anyway towards the wedding. I wouldn’t ask them to either because they have enough trouble paying the bills. FI’s grandma has bought the last 2 cars for them because they have no money and yet everytime I see her she has a new purse or something.
We asked her the other day to contact the people they asked us to invite to the wedding. She didn’t really want to and insisted that she was sure they would come. FI finally said, well we need to know so call them. She was supposed to call FI back that night after dinner so they could talk more. She never did. I called her today and left a message asking how she was and if she had a chance to get in touch with those people. She called me back and I couldn’t answer and she leaves a message saying that she hasn’t had time to call and that while we were on the subject there were about 10 more people she thought about inviting. Ummmm. NO! I am out of invites and we do not want people there we do not know. FI is going to call her tonight to make sure she didn’t already invite these other people because if she did, she will be uninviting them.
I think the biggest thing that pisses FI and I off is the fact that not once have they offered to help out with anything with the wedding. I am not talking about giving us money but other stuff. She bends over backwards to help FI’s brother’s wife by driving her to work and everything else and this girl has called FI’s mom a bit** to her face and threatened to punch her and yet FI’s mom is still catering to her!
Sorry, I just need to vent. I feel bad for my FI because I have an awesome relationship with my parents and they are helping out not just financially but lots of other ways too. My parents treat him like a son and I think it just hurts FI that his parents basically act like they don’t want him.