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Hi JamaicaBride! Sorry to hear about your dissappointment. I wish you all the best in which ever route you take.
I am sorry as well and can totally understand your disappointment and frustration. Maybe you guys can do a small weekend destination wedding somewhere here in the states, so that you guys don't have to wait that long, but still can get away?
Hugs!
City Hall and an intimate reception dinner with close family and friends doesn't take a lot of planning and you can do it any day you like. I'm sorry things didn't work out. If being married is your biggest concern and not the whole wedding thing, I say, do the Justice of the Peace at City Hall and then a nice dinner with family and friends.
I think a small wedding (even if it is just JoP) & then a larger reception/party would be great. You could take the $ you would have spent on the J-trip & use it towards other things! You could buy yourselves an awesome wedding gift or put it in savings for a vacation later on. There is no reason to abandon all hope of a wonderful wedding just because it didn't happen in 2009 :(
I hope your enthusiasm returns soon & you can decide which route to take!
You ladies are right...I was definitely having a moment. It doesn't help that I am the bubbly one so when my bubbles go flat...so does the FI's. Instead of ending my pity parties, he usually ends up partying with me...LOL.
Well.....I think I have my FI sold on going to the JP. Here in NC, we can get the license and get married on the same day...no waiting period.
PLUS....my wedding gift (for the next 50 years according to him) from my FI is a FABULOUS vacation home in Puerto Rico that we haven't yet had time to furnish. So..I suggested a trip there when things ease up a bit with work and school.
I also told him that I still wanted to do a nice photo shoot in our wedding attire. Venting sure makes it easier to work your way around to a solution 
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That house is amaaaazing! So glad to hear you're feeling better about everything!
OMG - WOW. That would be enough right there to cheer me up LOL.
AWESOME house!
Glad you're feeling better!
beautiful house!!!! since it's yours perhaps you could go away for a weekend or during your daughter's spring break and just chillax :D... i love the idea of the jop...
Thanks guys...I think I screamed until I was hoarse when he told me he bought it....LOL. It was like being engaged all over again! He keeps shaking his head saying...we are NEVER getting a divorce....LOL. Once we retire, we plan on living in Puerto Rico for half the year...we have friends there. So we decided to go for the gusto.
As for marriage...we both know that we need sooner rather than later. It's affecting his work in that he can't really concentrate like he needs to and is sick to death of us living apart. Same goes for me. We both are against living together prior to marriage (FI's dad is a minister) so it's marriage or visiting for us. Plus...I already have a renter lined up for my house starting in March. We hopefully have found a solution that won't throw our schedule off TOO much.
Plus...I want to immerse myself in planning for my sister's wedding. In order to do that I need to have my situation settled. I feel better now that I know we have a plan in place...but gosh darnit I wanted to see what FI planned so BAD.
i say if you can do it by march go for it!! if not, then perhaps you could elope to a great b and b and then enjoy a vow renewal there....
@crebre...I tolf my FI that he should just go ahead and give me my wedding band so I can show off my rings finally....LOL...as you can imagine...that was a no go....can't blame a girl for trying
@ja:LMBO!!! how funny is that?! i cannot wait to see them :D
The house is lovely and I think it's AWESOME that you guys are working something else out. I can't wait to see the ring pics either!!
Wow, he comes with that gorgeous home in PR? If you don't want to marry FI anymore, I will. Just KIDDING!
I really must have missed a previous post because I was unaware of any issue with your wedding in Jamaica. I am SO sorry to hear that things didn't pan out though! I'll try to get myself caught up on what happened. Chin up, the only thing that really matters is that you have each other in the end!
That house would boost my spirits! You could always do a small elopement there with your children and family. That way it's not as stressful and overwhelming as the full blown crazy wedding. Hope that helps! :o)
@crebre....you know I went looking for something similar to my ring. He did some custom designs but this is kind of similar. The wedding band also has the diamonds all the way around. He won't tell me the total weight of the set and I don't particularly care...but the 3 stones total 2.5 carats. He said he went for quality over quantity.... It's more than enough for me =)
http://www.barskydiamonds.com/product.php?cid=188
@Curly...we are trying...this is one of the issues with being a 30+ bride and a 40+ groom. Life definitely gets in the way of plans =)
@2010...where do I begin...here is the synopsis...a winter storm blew into the SE the weekend we were supposed to fly out. The earliest flight we could get was Tues (Dec 22) and that was the wedding date. THEN we found out that the resort neglected to BOOK the wedding portion of the trip anyway....LOL. So now the resort wants to give us a free stay and 1/2 off the wedding but we just don't have the time to go. It took some fancy footwork for both of us to be off for that amount of time at the same time. With careers and school (my FI is in school for his PhD and I have a 12 yr old in school) there is no way we can make it out of the country for a week.
@Azin...it does....I have been scrolling through the pictures to get a little boost =) We will probably round up the kids and hit the JP and have a fun "photo shoot" afterwards. We were planning on taking a family trip to PR anyway...so we will probably wait until then. I am not as stressed about the whole thing now...kind of going with the flow...
Holy crap - that is your house? CRAZY! I feel the same way a lot of the time - trying to rent a house to hold the wedding requires extra event fees - and only certain houses allow events - and there is an extra deposit and double the cleaning fees - plus processing fee. And I thought it would be easy to do a DW...
Giiirrrrlllll!!!! OMG freakin awesome!!!! Ok I totally understand your frustration especially since you are not living together till marriage (us either). I agree with the suggestion to go to a beautiful B&B with your original guests (I think it was only going to be you FH and daughter) and get married so your lives together can begin...and you can start wearing that wedding band ;)
I posted on your other page that FH and I are getting married with just minister and our moms this summer and then having a vow renewal ceremony a year later...just could not stand being apart any longer and now were both counting down the days!
The most important thing is that you're together :)
Did I say your home is freakin awesome ;) woooowwwwww I wouldn't even pay a resort Id have my wedding or vow renewal right there...it sure is big enough ;)
What a BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL home! WOW! I wish I could do a walk through!
the house is AWESOME!!! and I love, love, love Puerto Rico...I celebrated my 30th B-day there...hope to go back someday
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My heart is just not in the whole wedding thing anymore. After the disappointment with the weather and the craziness with the resort, I just don't know if I want to go through the disappointment again. I am trying to maintain my enthusiasm but it's just not there.....and I am pretty sure that my FI knows it. Everytime he brings up planning for Jamaica I suggest the JoP instead. At first I was all excited about buying my dress and jewelry and getting make-up and hair taken care of but nothing came of it....so I am just done with the whole thing.
I think before I was just kind of going with the flow...but then the New Year came in and I realized that...damn...I am not a bride...still a FI...and 2010 is here. It will be next to impossible to be able to go anywhere until the summer and I am not willing to wait that long...especially since my younger sister is getting married in September and I am planning the wedding. We both have careers, children, he is in school....the perfect time has passed so now I am just like whatever.