- 5 years ago
Just need to blow off steam here where it’s safe and not at my SO or anyone else.
My wonderful, amazing, generous boyfriend dated a poisonous, greedy snake for 4 years on and off before he met me. She treated him like shit and used him for his money – bullying him into buying her presents every day, pouting if he didn’t buy her flowers every day, forcing him into getting her expensive things all the time. She stole his credit card and used it to buy tons of stuff a few times. eiwjgeoigewjhg.
I try SO hard to not be anything like her, so I’ve never brought up him buying me flowers once and I’m really careful to be gracious for anything he gives me. I’m uncomfortable with people spending a lot of money on me, anyway, so it’s been quite a shock to be with someone who’s as gifty as he is.
But occasionally I want to scream because she taints so many things. Like today, we were talking about jewelry and he goes,
“You know what I love? That you aren’t into pandora bracelets, because thats one box I don’t want to have to open again.”
I was crestfallen. I have *always* wanted one – but I guess she bullied him into buying her one then insisted on diamond and gold (aka the most expensive) charms, and getting them constantly.
I just. ARG! I hate that buying me flowers might make him think of her. I hate that the mere thought of Pandora makes him grimace with the memory of overspending on charms to keep her happy. I wish she could be permanently erased from his brain.
Probably if she wasn’t still so needy and constantly begging for his attention it wouldn’t bother me as much. But she still calls and texts and messages him all. the. time.
Anyway. Rant over, thanks for letting me get it all out, Bees.