- 9 years ago
We are getting NO financial assistance from either family whatsoever.
His family are saints! They would love to help but really can’t. However, his mom has been like a second MOH for me. She is so supportive and there for me whenever I need someone to vent to.
My parents, otoh, are richer than god but refuse any emotional or financial assistance because I was married for 3 weeks 10 years ago when I was barely out of college. I left my ex when he hit me. Once. I didn’t let hit #2 happen. Despite the fact that I have 10 years more maturity and have been supporting myself for the last 10 years on my own, they actually refuse to even acknoweledge our engagement because we don’t have a date set.
We don’t have a date set because we aren’t sure how long it will take us to save for the wedding and also, because FI owns a house with his 2 brothers that they are trying to sell. (It’s not exactly a sellers market).
We think we can save 5K in 2 years.
I really do not have a lot of demands for my wedding.
I just would like to have a real reception site (read: no VFW halls)
with catered food (read: Potluck is for your aunts retirement party, not my wedding).
I also want a REAL honeymoon since it will likely be the first and only real vaca FI & I get to take for a loooong time.
I do not want a VFW hall because IMO, they look trashy. I have hated every wedding I’ve been to in one. They are usually dirty, and seem to have veterans crap all over the place.
I am not crafty. I can’t magically make a sucky looking room look better. I literally have no female friends who are good at things like this either.
Also, I do not have anyone who will stay and clean up for me after the reception. I do not want to spend my wedding night cleaning a reception hall.
So I want a real reception site. Can you imagine having to spend your wedding night cleaning a hall?? No.
🙁 What I really want is to elope and use the 5K for a classy looking ceremony somewhere, just the two of us, and then an awesome honeymoon. But he really wants his whole family present.
When I tell people this I am usually met with this response “Well, Gothybride2b, you are obviously more interested in having a fancy wedding than in your marriage and in the value of family”
WHAT!? So I want a nice wedding! That makes me somehow love my fiance less? That somehow makes me not respectful of his closeness to his family? Please…
Anyone else dealing with money stress and judgemental idiots?