Post # 1
As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve been living in Australia with FI since July. Prior to that I was in Europe for 2 months so I haven’t actually lived in Chicago since the beginning of May 2010. Before that, FI and I had been in a long distance relationship for about 6 months. Living away from FI was too hard, which is why I agreed to put off my career and move here until he could get transfered to the Chicago office with his company.
When I moved here, I was under the impression it would be until February or March (when FI’s firs tyear with this company was up). As time went on, he kept pushing it back until we were going to be here until mid-April, which I was never happy about but kept quiet in case things could be changed.
I’ve been homesick this whole time, I don’t have any of my own friends here, and with the exception of subsitute teaching a few days (which I haven’t done in 2 months due to school holidays– sidenote: because of the visa i have, sub teaching is pretty much the only job I can do while I’m here), I pretty much hang out by myself all day while FI is at work. I’m probably making it sound worse than it is, I have had a lot of fun while I’ve been here and I wouldn’t trade anything for the time I’ve got to spend with my fiance.. its just been a lonely 6 months or so.
Well, FI got offered a transfer that was supposed to start at the end of Feb and I was SO excited to go home, I applied for some jobs and started looking at apartments and started getting excited about being able to plan my wedding from Chicago rather than the opposite side of the world. Well, I just found out that FI’s boss got his start date changed back to mid-April.
I can’t stop crying, I don’t know what to do. I miss my family and my friends so much and living here is so lonely and my lifestyle here is pretty unhealthy but being away from FI is too hard, at the same time. I just want to go slap his boss across the face for doing this, but obviously that wont help. I just needed to share.
Post # 3
Wow..I’m sorry to hear this…. My heart goes out to you. Just hang on and know that it wont be forever. Try and do something that will get your spirits up…Watch a funny movie, listen to some good music, make a fun date night with your FI… Best of wishes to you!!
Post # 4
im sorry to hear about the change of plans and i can understand how heart sick you are feeling
try to relax, the time will go super fast – i know this doesnt help you right now so vent away and while you can enjoy the aussie summer
Post # 5
I know how this can be, because I moved away from the only place I’d ever know to be with an ex. Just be thankful that there is a move back day coming, and that this isn’t a permament thing!! April will be here before you know it!
Post # 6
I know its not forever and I actually feel selfish being so upset, especially because he’s moving to Chicago FOREVER to be with me.. I just miss home so much and hate that the whole reason I’m here is to be with him and he’s at work from 5:30am until 7:30pm (with the commute) leaving me all alone. I got my hopes up way too high that I’d be going home early.. I never truly believed I’d be away from home for close to a year and its really eating me up.
Post # 7
yeah, the commute in sydney can kill you and this weeks heat isnt helping
try to take it a day at a time – it wont be long before you are suffering a chicago winter and wondering why you are living there 🙂
Post # 8
OMW! I can totally relate! I did the same thing for two months last winter to spend time with J! We were in an international LDR, and I had two months of vacation time, so I came and sat, alone, in his studio apartment while he was teaching/coaching/at grad school/gone all day! It was rough. I mean, it was amazing for the 2-3 hours we got to hang out in the evenings, but all day? ROUGH!
I can’t imagine doing that for six months 🙁 Or unexpectedly having to extend!
Would it be an option for you to move back to the States earlier than him, to start working, find an apartment, get settled in, etc.? Or to take a vacation to visit family and break up the monotony?
I do think it’s important to have something to occupy yourself with. It may not be realistic to find work, but can you volunteer somewhere? When I was in that scenario, I had just become a Hive Hostess, and as silly as it sounds, I found a lot of my “purpose” in volunteering my time in that way, haha.
Post # 9
im sorry youre going through this, in about a years time il do the exact same thing as you have done, but its permanent….leaving my whole life behind me so i can be with my SO, its worth it but u worry about making friends etc… id talk the head of you if i know you, or if im drunk:P but if i dont know you i wont talk to you at all,im so shy its embarrassing!!! and!! i have noqualifications, so good look to me trying to find a job:S
Post # 10
🙁 i’m so sorry you are going through this. but maybe you could move back a little earlier than him? if you still plan to come at the end of Feb then you could get settled and started working and he would be with you again in 6 weeks. I know that’s a long time, but you would be busy unpacking and nesting so I think the time would go by fast. My fiance lives in England and i’m in Texas but we use a webcam in the evenings so its SORT of like we are spending time together, it helps when we are apart, even if i’m just reading and he’s watching TV, at least he’s there. You could do that maybe?