Post # 1
And that time is now for me.
My bridesmaids are FI’s cousins and my future brother in laws gf. People I didn’t know before FI and I got serious.
I don’t talk to anyone from highschool (long story short, I was in an abusive relationship that isolated me from everyone, including family, so I lost all my friends). Then when I went to college, I was a single mother so didn’t really have time to make friends. Everyone I work with is in their mid 40s or older so they don’t really relate to me.
So now, I really just feel alone. I can’t really talk much with my MOH because we don’t really know each other. I feel like I have to have a bridal party because FI has friends that he has known since kindergarten that he wanted to be his groomsmen.
I mean FI is great. He is my bestfriend and if I could be marrying my FI and have my FI as my Man of Honour I would lol but totally not doable.
Either way, I’m just feeling down because the MOH (fi’s cousin) came down to “help” with wedding stuff and stayed 2 days and decided to go to her aunt’s house for the rest of the week she will be here. Not her fault. I’m just bummed.
Post # 3
I totally feel you. My Bridal party is my FI’s two sisters. My bachlorette party will be his two sisters, his female friends, and their female friends. I am only inviting one person I recently met.
You never have to be lonely with the wedding bee though. It has gotten me through so much for hard times. I’m sorry you can’t talk to your MOH, that’s rough, but it also gives you time to get to know her.
Post # 4
I know what you’re going through. I don’t have a lot of *close* female friends, and choosing a bridal party was very hard for me. My bridal party was my aunt, my friend from college (she played her violin), DH’s cousin’s wife (his cousin was a groomsman) and DH’s best friend’s wife (best friend was also a groomsman). While both girls from “his side” are good friends of mine, I still felt like to some extent that they were “his side”…
Post # 5
Thanks ladies. It’s good to know I am not alone on this.
Post # 6
I TOTALLY understand I went through the same thing. My best friend is in a different state and in med school (so he’s SUPER busy), and my mom wasn’t very interested in anything. I felt really overwhelmed and sad about dress shopping and other things b/c I didn’t have that ideal group of girls to go out with. I made the best use of it… i took people who wanted to go with me, and then had my mom come for the final decision it was a little more coordination BUT definitely still fun!
I recommend doing something that will help you meet people. You can either take a hobby you have and use it to meet ppl (i.e. I joined a volleyball league and met some people) or start a new hobby where you can meet people. If anything it will keep you busier, and feeling less lonely.
Post # 7
I’m sorry tranquility 🙁
I feel the same way too…I’m a mom and I’m getting married but all of my friends aren’t married and they don’t like kids, so I can’t relate to any of them. And talking to them about what goes on in my life is like talking to a wall…they just don’t understand or really care.
You just need to remind yourself that it doesn’t last forever. There are plenty of opportunities down the road where you will meet friends, whether they are your child’s friend’s parents or new co-workers, etc.
Get this–I don’t have anyone on my guest list for my bridal shower…1. all of my friends who are coming to the wedding are out of town 2. any friends that I have that live where I do, weren’t invited to the wedding since we aren’t super close
I know it sucks for now, but it will pass!
Post # 8
I just joined a Runner’s Club (i’m not a very good runner) and have met some really nice people, and it gives me an excuse to meet people in a healthy setting rather than going out to drink or eat with the beer-league sports teams. I also joined an outdoor boot camp training thing that starts next week and hope to meet people too!
Post # 9
I think this is more common that you think! My FI has a really close knit group of friends since he was small. I have friends, but literally none of them live where we do! They are spread out all over the state and country.
It gets kinda lonely planning alone, but I try and talk to my mom as much as possible
Post # 10
All my girlfriends are a good ten years younger than I am and now that I am getting married, they just really aren’t in the same life phase as I am anymore. I have three super close friends only.
I’m having a destination wedding and am not even sure if any of my best buds will actually save up to make the trip. I am not counting on it.
Luckily my man and I have decided we prefer no one standing up for us anyways, so the pressure is off for me there.
But you’re not alone!