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    qui40067    July 3, 2011  

    O.m.g.

    I know we've all thought about it, joked about it, and probably the majority of us have seriously contemplated it.

    Well, hive, I may have reached my breaking point this week.  I know I still have 9 months to go, but I honestly don't think I have the time to pull this off and am beginning to question spending 1000s of dollas on a day I don't have the time to create the way I want it.

    So...if you felt you were too busy, would you still plan your wedding or just elope?

     
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    Soon2beeMrsM    October 2010   NY

    I am 16 days away and I tell ya if we didn't have so much money into this, we would elope. It's been nothing but stress for me (and FI sometimes too). I wish we would have eloped then just had a huge casual party. Do what makes you and FI happy because that's all that matters.

     
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    somerset14    October 9, 2010   Falmouth, MA (Cape Cod)

    @Soon2beeMrsM:i am 9 days away and i would say elope too, even though i can't wait to see what my DIY wedding ends up looking like, feeling like and behaving like!  I know what the day is about and I will do everything in my power to be present and breathe in every delicious moment! 

    Do what makes you happy.  Listen to your voice.

     
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    CaraMia10    October 10, 2010   Loma Linda, CA

    @Soon2beeMrsM: I am w/ you!! Yes, being 10 days out, I still say that.

     
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    Shekema07    July 2, 2011  

    Sometimes I feel that way too. Our wedding isn't until next Oct and I want to be married already. I'm thinking of just moving ours forward a few months if it is possible...Hang in there it will be here before you know it and from what everyone seems to say it's totally worth it in the end :)

     
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    iRun2004    March 26, 2011  

    25 weeks and 2 days out, which means that I assume I will consider eloping approximately 127 more times between now and then. Time to explain to your FI that the most important thing that he can do for your weddding, is be your backstop for when you feel like you're ready to go flippin' insane.

    In Sum: You.Are.Not.Alone. Hang in there. Or don't. And do what most of us don't have the guts to do and fly off to .... I dunno ... Big Sky, Montana.

     
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    des_salazar    November 13, 2010   Live in Houston, TX / Wedding in Winter Park, CO

    I think we all have those moments.  I'm about 6 weeks out and the stress is killing me.  For sanity's sake, I wish we had eloped but I don't want to spend the rest of my life regretting not investing time and money for a day that is meant to be remembered for a lifetime :)

     
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    mrsgtobee    October 20, 2010   United Kingdom

    I think if I could go back in time I would elope.  I've had that much grief over this wedding that I'm not even sure I want it any more.  His family have tried to control everything, and there have been some massive fights.  So from that point of view I would elope.

    From a finance/time point of view, it's totally your call.  You can still have a beautiful wedding very cheaply - and remember the best bit is being married to the love of your life at the end of the day.  Also I think every bride has those days lol x

    Good luck, and hope you feel better soon :-)

     
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    qui40067    July 3, 2011  

    Thank you for all the support, ladies Smile FI & I are actually going to talk to some people this weekend to try and gauge their reactions if we just eloped for financial & sanity reasons.  But it's so scary, as des_salazar said, that if we take that route that we'll regret it!  Do you ladies know anyone that's eloped?  What did they say about it?

     

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