- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 1991
I’m new, but have been one of those board stalkers for a long time. I love reading posts and seeing how supportive everyone is. It’s an awesome community and I’m excited to get to know more people! 🙂
Right now, I might as well be an unpaid wedding planner! I was a BM in my former roommate’s wedding in January, so I heard ALL about wedding plans since we were roomies and helped with a lot of stuff. Then in 6 weeks, my best friend and other college roomie is getting married and I’m her MOH. The DAY after her wedding (yes… one on Saturday, one on Sunday), my sister is getting married, and it has been a very short engagement due to her FI being in the military and being deployed shortly. So, for the past year, I have been helping several close friends plan weddings, and hearing about wedding details CONSTANTLY, which I do really enjoy… really. 🙂
My problem is, I am getting SO tired of talking about centerpieces, processional songs, invitations, how many rose petals to buy, etc. It’s not that I’m not excited or thrilled for my friends/sister… I’m just wedding-ed OUT and drained from people depending on me for ideas/detail planning.
My BF and I have been talking about marriage, and we’ve already decided that we’re getting married next summer (major YAY!!!), but at this point, I am so sick of wedding details that I am worried that I won’t be excited to plan my own wedding! Everyone keeps telling me that “it’ll be different when it’s your own”, and “you’ll enjoy it when the time comes”, and I know that’s true, and I will love planning my wedding… but I need a break.
It’s so bad that part of me hopes that my BF waits to propose until a few months after these weddings!! We were talking earlier tonight and I told him that if he does decide to propose soon, I want to book our major vendors, then just sit back on the other details until later on in the year, but who says that haha?!?! I almost felt like the wedding gods would smite me for suggesting such a thing.
Has anyone else experienced wedding burnout with either your own or other people’s weddings? How did you deal with this? Is it a bad idea to sit on my own plans for awhile after getting engaged if my darling BF decides to pop the question soon? I’m worried that my FMIL won’t understand and I don’t want to squash her un-weddinged-out enthusiasm! 🙂