(Closed) I am too organised for a long engagement!

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

AHH I’m the same way!  We needed at least 18 months because around here, venues fill up INSANELY early (I guess because there aren’t that many to choose from in the Pittsburgh area).  I have our officiant, our venue, our photographer, my dress, our rings, our ceremony musicians and DJ, my BMs dresses narrowed down, and our theme/colors.  I feel like I am just twiddling my thumbs because I can’t really do much else because it’s SO FAR OUT.  Glad I’m not alone!!!

Post # 4
1183 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Oh jeeze. We have 16 months. We have our save the dates..and the ceremony, reception, and photographer are booked..and I bought my dress….but we still neeed…um…EVERYTHING else….like:

  • invitations
  • cake
  • welcome bags….and favors…..
  • travel arrangements (destination wedding)
  • his suit
  • flowers + nonflowers that we are using in lieu of flowers (buttonholes, bridesmaid bouquets, etc)…though I DO have my bouquet. so that’s good.
  • honeymoon
  • all of my accessories…like ALL of them…veil, jewelry, shoes, etc.
  • booze (hahah)
  • his ring, and one of mine (i have two…one diamond and one solid)
  • my makeup & hair person…and my nail person.
  • our servers and fluters…and a guest book….and the unity candles…
  • about 394837289 other things i’m forgetting.

So yeah. We need the time haha. Plus I’m DIY-ing a lot so I need time to do little things here and there without being totally overwhelmed.

Post # 5
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had an 18 month engagement, and I did not plan anything for the first nine months!  Take time to enjoy the engagement period and get ready for marriage (the life-long part, not just the party).  It will go by quickly!

Post # 6
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re 11 months out and I’m about down to twiddling my thumbs. We’ve got a ton of the big stuff done…I think all that’s left is cake, bridesmaids’ dresses/ groomsmens’ tuxes (but we’re waiting due to possible pregnancies), making my brooch bouquet, and prepping invites. I had way to much lead time. Lol.

Post # 7
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are in the last third of a 16 month engagement and I didn’t do any planning until we were a year out. During the first four months we bought a home and move in together so we really just wanted to get used to that and enjoy being engaged. I am a pretty organized person but in the last year there have definitely been times when I’ve been really stressed by the process. Working full-time, studying for the GMAT (I’m applying to MBA programs from fall 2012), planning a wedding, and trying to get in shape for that wedding is a LOT.

Post # 8
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

im the same as you! We are having a super long engagement, not cause we ‘need’ to for time planning, but due to school, long distance etc.

We have booked:
Nothing – im holding off until atleast 2012 😛

We have narrowed down:

Ceremony Venue
Cake place

We know:

Where we are honeymooning
What dress I would like
Kind of cake, and design
Reception venue
Tux look for the guys
Table & Chair covers
Guest List
Church Programs
Oot Bags
Which dress BMs probably want
Theme & Colours
The Date
The Guestbook
The Dj
The Invitations

Post # 9
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@LessIsMoore: I am so the same way. We have been engaged for a year..But we set a date 1 month ago. I am all over this. I want to do everything now and be dome with it! My mother laughes at me cuz i talk about what i have done or need to be done like the wedding is next month!!

Post # 10
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh yeah. We have his ring already and I am just itching to go in and pick out mine. Yeesh! I’m glad that I’m not the only one though – I was starting to feel that way!! I’m ready to get the ball rolling and if one more person says “You have plenty of time” I’ll probably scream. Not plenty. I have TOO MUCH. :p We’re even talking about moving it up a few months since none of our big stuff is “booked” just picked out, basically. I don’t want to get bored with planning my own wedding. 🙁

Post # 11
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I completely understand how you feel – we are having a 24 month engagement!

We are getting married in peak wedding season in NZ so booked all the major things (church, venue, caterer, photographer etc) 2 years in advance, pretty much as soon as we were engaged.

We have about 9 1/2 months until our wedding and we are meeting this weekend with FI’s aunty to talk about the invites (she works in a print place).  FI is worried its too early to do the invites but I am itching to do them!  In a year our guest list hasn’t changed so I am pretty sure it won’t change in 9 months, I guess we can always get a few blank ones for if there are extra people later that we want to invite.

I am a typical type A person, I have a huge folder with lists of what we have done, checklists, budget run down, ideas, DIY lists, pockets for receipts etc that I look at numerous times a day! And I think I drive everyone around me crazy with how much I talk about the wedding!

Post # 12
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It may help to make yourself a list of things to do every month. Our engagement is about 16 months as well… We got the big stuff done right away (officiant, photographer, venue) and then in December I made myself a list of things to do every month. It’s been keeping me pretty busy!

Post # 13
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Our engagement will be 2 years in total. I was a bit worried that it would be too long, but I am NOT an organised person so I think it’s going to work out just fine.


So far we have:

– booked church and reception venues

– decided on bridal party

– discussed ideas for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, invites, etc.


Still tons to do!

Post # 14
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We had a 23 month engagement (not by choice- had to move our wedding back a year due to another family wedding).  At first it seemed like it would last forever, but then I started to really enjoy taking my time planning. I interviewed as many vendors as I pleased, had tastings leisurely, dress shopped  whenever I felt like it and had plenty of time to order. We also designed my wedding band with our jeweler and had several months to comfortably complete the process.

By the time the wedding came around everything was ready to go and I was prety stress free. 🙂

I was super organized as well and I was still happy for the extended planning time.

Post # 15
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh I can relate to this. We had/have a 21 month engagement. We got engaged in June of ’10 and I knew I wanted a spring wedding but also knew I would be able to plan one in 9 months so we added an extra year. So far this is how it’s looking

We have:
Ceremony/Reception venue
My dress ordered
BM’s dresses picked out
Our Save-The-Date Cards (printed, stuffed, stamped, and ready to go)

We know:
Centerpieces/bouquets/bouts picked out
Menu (mostly)
Cake and design
Guest list

We have an idea for the guest book and favors. We’re talking to someone now about making our invitations.

I’m glad we ended up with a long engagement but only because we’re doing it long distance so if we can get everything planned and enjoy the last 3-4 months (or more) that would be awesome. lol

Post # 16
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Not getting married until August 2012 and am further along in the planning process than some of my friends who are getting married this summer. I’m pretty sure I have even found the dress. The main reason we’re not getting married this summer is because we want to save some money first.

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