I am torn

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
Member
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Clairetoris:  you can buy the diamond separate and have shaneco set it for you, you don’t have to buy the diamond from them! They may charge a setting fee, and you should get the diamond insured before you hand it over in case it gets damaged.

I would check out James Allen and Ritani.. They both have pictures and video of most or all of their stones. Ritani will let you pick five stones and then they’ll set up a phone consultation! They call you while you look at the stones on a website they send you and they go over all of them just like if you were there in person! 

 

Post # 4
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3614 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I would order from blue nile, or a vendor that will match blue nile’s and trade up policy/  There is no point on over paying for a diamond.  There is nothing to fear, buying a diamond at one place and a setting at another.  It is about getting what you love, and if you want an E VS stone, and can afford that stone, I would get it.  Just insure before you allow someone else to set it.

Post # 5
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3693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What setting are you looking at? Are you sure you can’t get something identical/similar somewhere else? I’ve heard too many complaints about ShaneCo settings to want to buy from them.

Post # 7
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1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Clairetoris:  Agree with PPs. Buy the diamond from blue nile, get it insured, then have ShaneCo set it into the setting you want. 

Post # 9
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1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Clairetoris:  Is your SO worried that it will be a hassle? Because saving hundreds/thousands of dollars is worth doing it this way. Plus it’s not even going to be especially difficult. With BlueNile you are receiving a stone that is GIA certified and with the specs you plan on ordering, you aren’t going to have to worry about eye clean stones or anything. 

Post # 12
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Have you looked on the Brilliant Earth website? They have some gorgeous settings with detail, similar to the one you posted. FI and I bought my ring (with diamond) from them, sight unseen. We hadn’t even been to a brick and mortar store, but we are very happy with our choice! Not sure how the prices compare to other stores though, obviously.

Post # 14
Member
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I say if you love that setting then go for it. If your SO is willing to spend the money on a diamond from the same place then let him. Personally I think it’s a little silly; it really wouldn’t be a hassle to buy the diamond online and get it set at ShaneCo, especially if it’s hundreds of dollars cheaper. If it’s an aversion to buying online, there are heaps of satisfied bees on here who have bought from Blue Nile, from memory. Since you’ve basically decided on that setting, you either need to: A) somehow convince him to buy the diamond online, or B) just let him buy it from ShaneCo

Post # 15
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9226 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

Can you get a better quality stone at Shane & Co? If you can afford to get a stone there with the specs you want, in the setting you love, I would, despite the jacked up prices. As you said you can tell the difference with the stones, so it would be a bad idea to get a stone with lesser clarity/cut/colour if you can tell the difference and don’t like it. But I still think you should be able to get the setting you love, so if you can afford to go for it 🙂

ETA: I can understand your FI thinking it’s a hassle. For example, getting it repaired, you would need to send it to one of two different places, depending on the problem. Like a problem with the center stone would need to be returned to Blue Nile, but if that causes a disruption to the setting then it would need to be sent to Shane & Co, and so on.

Post # 16
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1106 posts
Bumble bee

I think your fi is being ridiculous. He needs to get over thinking it’s a hassle. Men are soo impatient! My fi is the same way. But I’m a brat and always get my way =) My ring is from shane co and I adore it their settings are super well made my ring is perfect I even had them size it down from a 6.5 to a 4 and haven’t had any problems with it. I would def go with the route of buying from blue Nile and having it set at Shane co. My diamond was bought at Shane co for $1400 and I looked it up on blue Nile and it is on there for a little less than 1,000! That’s a huge difference in price. 

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