- 9 years ago
My parents are AWESOME. They own their own business and have had a lot of success. They are paying for our wedding and have been extraordinarily generous. My extended family is pretty rural, generally poor, and very conservative. They have all lived in eastern NC for their entire lives and generally do not leave the county. We do not always see eye to eye on things.
My FI’s family is well educated, well off financially, generally big spenders, and travel frequently. Basically they are the exact opposite of my family.
I recently found out that some people in my family have been giving my mom a hard time about planning the wedding in Raleigh, NC rather than my hometown 30 minutes away. My grandmother specifically made some comments about how my mom should have forced me to get married in her church or my grandmother’s church, even though I probably thought that wasn’t good enough for me. She has also been tearing into my mom about spending lots of money on our reception at a country club. She thinks we should have a fellowship hall reception with cocktail weiners and punch and cake. Apparently my whole family has decided that I’m marrying "up" and being a huge snob. They even think the stores where we registered are too snobby (Target, Macy’s, Amazon.com, and Anthropologie– they seriously think the towels I registered for at Target are too expensive)
My FI’s family expects an evening wedding with a sit down dinner, a band, dancing, the whole shebang.
The wedding we’ve planned is going to be at my FI’s parents’ church, followed by a lunch buffet reception at a really beautiful country club. There will be a DJ and a dance floor.
My FI’s mom has planned this over the top rehearsal dinner and our brunch the morning after is going to be at the nicest hotel in the area. Now my mom is offended because she thinks FI’s mom is trying to outdo her party because our reception isn’t going to be good enough for them. (My parents and my FI’s parents have met and have dinner together regularly, and they normally get along…)
I find myself actually dreading our wedding. Our families are so different and they’re all going to hate our reception, even though I tried to find a compromise between what they each wanted. I love our wedding, I’ve worked really hard to plan something gorgeous and very us, but I know someone will say something about it and just ruin it.
I wish I could uninvite everyone except our parents and friends. Thanks for letting me whine a bit 🙂