Post # 1
Here is a brief rant about my FBIL.
For starters the wedding is TOMORROW! He calls Fiancé (his brother) this morning telling him that he never bought the vest I requested!
I didn’t ask for a certain jacket. I didn’t ask for a certain pair of pants or shoes. I didn’t even ask for a certain type of tie! All I asked for was for all the vests to match! That’s ALL I asked for!
It wasn’t expensive! It was $20! Its not like it’s an easy color to go find in the store or something. It needed to be a specific Apple color to match my bridesmaids. Before settling on this vest, my fiancé and I scowered our city (small city, haha) and the surrounding areas for something that could work, but there wasn’t even a red colored vest in site! So we asked everyone to buy this vest online….all 6 other groomsmen managed to get it done…except for my FBIL.
So with the wedding TOMORROW I don’t know what to do!! It’s my fiancé’s brother! I can’t remove him from the wedding!
He’s not the best man either so wearing a black vest or something would look off.
Im so incredibly upset! I paid a lot of money for photography…one of the only things I splurged on…because I thought everyone would look amazing…and now it’s going to look off and I have no idea what to do with less than 28 hours until the ceremony.
EDIT: I have checked online and the soonest the vest could get here is Tuesday, with like $50 in expedited fees. So unfortunately that’s not an option as it isn’t an AmazonPrime or something like that item.
Post # 2
nycoleman : DEEEEEEEP BREATH. Yeah, he sounds lazy or irresponsible or something. BUT it’ll be okay. The world won’t end. You will marry your guy. The pictures will be beautiful. Things happen. I promise it’ll be okay.
Post # 3
Can you have it shipped overnight for first morning delivery?
He f’d up. He can borrow another GMs vest for family photos. You will still have a beautiful wedding.
Post # 4
Okay: while I understand you’re upset because your future brother in law completely ignored your request when you asked him to do one thing, he’s a shitty person. That said, it’s not worth getting upset about. You’re marrying the love of your life and you’re spending life with your fiancé, not his brother. It’s no reason to get all in a tizzy. Your day will be beautiful because it’s about you and your fiancé.
Post # 5
nycoleman : firstly, that sucks. I’m sorry you’re in the position. Your FI really should have followed up on this ages ago to make sure everyone got it, but that’s not helpful now.
The obvious answer here is just ditch the vests altogether. If you don’t want him to stand out, then have the rest of the groomsmen ditch the vests too.
Alternative option if the brother and best man are not drastically different in size – put the best man’s vest on the brother and then put the best man in a vest that can be acquired tonight at a store.
Post # 6
ButternutPoppy : *Deep Breath*
thank you. I know it’ll be okay in the end. My goal of marrying my fiancé will obviously trump any mishap. I just needed to rant! 😭
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
nycoleman : does he wear the same or similar size as the best man? Maybe you can buy a vest for the best man and have the best man give fbil his vest?
Post # 8
That is seriously annoying. Ugh. If he was so irresponsible he could have asked somebody to take care of it for him or somebody could have kept on him about it. At least you probably won’t have to regularly rely on him in the future.
is he the best man? Maybe a complementary but different color could work?
Post # 9
nycoleman : Overnight delivery? PrimeNow? Modern technology can solve this.
Post # 10
beethree : Unfortunately no. I checked this morning and the quickest it would ship, with like $49 in expedited shipping is Tuesday. Just a few days late. Haha. That is a good idea about borrowing a vest for family photos!! Thank you!
brokeandinlove92 : Yes! Thank you. I will have an amazing wedding regardless! I am stil very excited! I just wish he would have said something…like two days ago! And I could’ve fixed it. But! Either way we’ll be married and that’s all that matters in the end!
catskillsinjune : Well here’s the kicker on that! HE DID! He has a group chat with all his groomsmen, brother included, and Fiancé has been on them for months to get this vest! FBIL always says he’s on top of things! Fiancé texts twice, maybe three time a week to make sure if anyone needed help or whatnot.
Post # 11
nycoleman : Everything ButternutPoppy : said.
Maybe another family member can jump in and help find a solution. Maybe go to a fabric store and have a vest made…there are options. But you can’t worry about it at this point. Delegate it to someone else and just try to focus on marrying the love of your life.
Even if you cant find something to work, it will be ok. What will be will be. I promise you 5 years down the line the “vest” will be a non-issue in your marriage.
Have an amazing day tomorrow!
Post # 12
Oh No, I am so sorry that is happening to you. I would be so upset too…. but every single wedding I have ever heard of something has gone wrong, just go with the flow, he will be the one looking like an inconsiderate ass and not you, you will look beautiful on your big day, and congrats!!
Post # 13
MrsSapphire : While that’s a good idea, unfortunately they don’t wear the same size! I wish they did though! Maybe I can work something around that! 🤔
megrays : Yes yes. I might look into that! This is why I came here! Haha.
fredthebasil : Unfortunately, it can’t be overnighted. I looked and would have willingly paid the money for it. But the soonest it could be made and shipped is Tuesday. 😔
BeeBlake : That’s a good idea too! I’ll see if we can finagle around that! Thank you!
Post # 14
morgie20 : Oh this is the straw on the camels back for how much has gone wrong this week! It’s almost laughable (it’ll be laughable Sunday! Hahaha). Thank you so much though! It will be okay in the end, that I know. Just ridiculous in the moment.
Post # 15
Deeeeep breath!! I just got married two weeks ago and know the insane ball of nerves that you are in one day before your wedding. But it’s all gonna be ok. At this point, you’ve done all you can to organize this weddng and now you need to work on letting go and just ENJOYING IT!
I would just have him omit the vest. Don’t worry about it – if this is all that goes wrong you are blessed! My groomsmen were supposed to wear suits of their choice in navy or charcoal (as in same color jacket and pants…), and one of them turned up in black and the other in a coat and slacks that were different (and clashing) shades of blue. I didn’t even NOTICE on the day…only looking at pics afterward did I realize it lol, and I couldn’t care less. Also they were all supposed to wear silver ties (which DH gifted them), but the best man rebelled and wore a black bow tie lol. Whatever. Let’s face it – no one looks at the groomsmen that much anyway…it’s all about the bride!