posted 3 months ago in Emotional
Post # 31
1028 posts
Bumble bee

Yes post a photo of it and your location and let us bees try to help!


Post # 34
6061 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

nycoleman :  Honestly, with 28 hours to go.. you put best man in whatever you can get your hands on!

Oh, and FBIL should definitely be footing the bill for all the last minute alterations.

Post # 35
1028 posts
Bumble bee

Are the guys wearing black suits/tuxes?  Are the vests solid red or patterned?  It would help to see the vest the other guys are wearing!  But my first thought is that if they are solid red, you could put the Best Man in a black/red pattern (if you can find that in time) and then have your brother in law wear the red one like the other groomsen (altered to fit him).  That way BM and your FI stand out but don’t match each other.

Post # 36
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

nycoleman :  Eeek! I understand your freak out.

BUT! Explain the situation to your photographer. Have him wear a color that is similar and the photographer can photoshopt it to be the right color.

I’m an Art Director, and have to frequently photoshop the color of people’s clothes to match things. It’s a pretty easy fix :o)


Post # 37
1827 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK

could your photographer edit the colour after the photos are taken? Only if it bothers you enough to have them photoshoped. He’s only going to be in a handful of them, maybe just shove him at the back 🙂

Post # 38
123 posts
Blushing bee

You say he is not the best man – however if the best man is wearing the same color vest could your BIL maybe use his, and the best man could get a black (or other colored) vest? That way the pictures might look a bit more cohesive….

Post # 39
1194 posts
Bumble bee

Just put the GM in a black vest, and swap around the other vests. With a jacket on you wont notice if it doesnt fit great, and I’m sure between all the GM you can find people who are similar or inbetween both men as a ‘fit-compromise’.

Post # 40
6541 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

nycoleman :  I know it seems like a disaster right now, and it is definitely disappointing and a dick move on his part, but is scrambling around to have your seamstress alter the Best Man’s vest and then trying to find something for the BM to wear really worth the stress at this point? I would either have them all wear no vest or maybe try doing vest/no-vest/vest/no-vest.

Post # 41
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

It going to be just fine and at the end of the day you would have married your best friend.  I understand everything going wrong the week before. The week before my wedding:

1. The groom was in the hospital two states away

2. The first best man dropped out

3. The “second” best man has car trouble

4. At the rehearsal dinner one groomsman didn’t make the trip, forgot to request the day off from work

5. Father in law decided he wasn’t coming to the wedding  (Don’t ask)

6. One Bridesmaid didn’t get her dress and her son and daughter were jr. groomsmen and bridesmaid. They didn’t have their clothes either.

7.  We replaced the best man with groomsmen which made us short

8. It snowed in Delaware in April the morning of our wedding

Saying all of that we are still happily married a year later.  The day of I told my coordinators just do what you have to do to get me to the altar.  They replaced my ushers to be groomsmen and I allowed my bridesmaid and her children to still walk even though they weren’t dressed.  It didn’t matter to me at that point.  I was getting married :-). The pictures weren’t the greatest but the one’s that were really important to me are perfect.  


Tomorrow night you will be a Mrs. and that’s all that matters 




Post # 42
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

It’ll be ok! I promise. 

The night before my sisters wedding, I tried on my dress and it didn’t fit at all. The seamstress had taken it in too much originally then undid everything and never altered it again. I had to call her and make her stay open and go there and get her to fix it. 

Then one bridesmaid had a different colour dress entirely. It was fine. 

Then we were missing a bouquet so I improvised.


it didn’t matter. No one knew and it was fine.


Post # 44
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

nycoleman :  I know how you feel. My husband’s groomsman told him the day before our rehearshal dinner that he had lost his vest, and all the groomsmen were wearing were shirts, vests, and dark blue jeans. We called all of the stores around, and could not find one. Luckly DH wears the same size, so he let the GM wear his vest, and we found him something different so that if anyone looks different, it’s DH so it looks more intentional. I’m not sure if that would be an option for you, or if your FI already is wearing a different color?

Post # 45
2231 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris

I promise it will be okay. Turn this over to the best man and enjoy yourself. 

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