I became that girl we all hate

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

haha.  I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  At that size, I’m sure it gets a lot of attention and everyones thinking it.  I feel like asking about *huge* sizes like that, which are usually uncommon is not the same as asking about a “normal” or smaller ring.  It’s a ‘holy shit that’s freaking huge/amazing, how big is that curiousity’ rather than a simply nosy, or possibly competitive reason for asking.

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

@Glasgowbound:  Dont beat yourself up! At least you werent bashing her for what she has! You were polite about it all so I’m sure she just took it as a compliment! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t worry either. You meant it from a good place and I’m sure it came across that way.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

She wouldn’t have gotten a ring that big if she didn’t want people noticing its “hugeness” and commenting on it. I wouldn’t worry.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

As long as you praised it, you’re in the clear : ) Just don’t give her the feels that you may possibly be talking crap or something…

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

I think it’s more cringeworthy when it’s a small ring and the question is asked!!  I don’t see issue with what you did and how you went about it, given the circumstances of the ginormous rock. 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

At least you didn’t ask if it was real, she probably gets that question plenty as well with a ring that big!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

This is why I don’t get offended when someone asks “How large is that?” or “Is that real?”, because just like you, most people aren’t being malicious about it, it’s just curiosity! Don’t let yourself feel bad about it, “oops” moments happen to all of us. 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@crayfish:  Believe it or not, some of us didn’t script our lives to the point where we picked out our engagement rings or wedding rings (or gave him cliff notes and a script to the proposal either). We allowed our husbands to do it and they came home with them all on their own…

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

@oracle:  +1

 

I think it’s only considered bad form when you’re saying it in a demeaning manor when someone has a tastefully sized diamond… and you say it as though you are bashing their ring.

When someone has a ring THAT big, they want to show it off and probably proudly say how big the diamond is… otherwise size never would have been a priority!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

@Glasgowbound:  I think that when you are wearing a diamond that large, you know it’s going to be noticeable and should be expecting people to ask about the size. 

it’s not like you asked her what she paid for it or her and her SO’s combined salary was or anything. I don’t think it was inappropriate at all. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

Better than my FI… he told me he asked someone if hers was a fancy yellow diamond (and it wasn’t).

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Glasgowbound:  i think since it was huge like that it was more shock value u do u ever ask for smaller then normal or normal rings thats when tis more offensive … i am sure she is used to it or will be getting used to it 

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