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I'm so sorry for you and your dog! What a sad day/night. It seems as if it is for the better. Hopefully you can take tonight to focus on her and tomorrow you can move onto the final wedding plans.
Best of luck with it all.
Wow scB- I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart is breaking for you and your FI.
My heart is breaking too...why not get a second opinion before doing that..just a question.
I am in medicine and I ALWAYS tell patients to do this if there's a possibility the outcome is dire.
That's so so sad! I'm so sorry to hear this. Good luck with it all. Know that we're all here for you and make sure to put a picture or her favorite stuffed animal or something at the wedding so it feels like you didn't totally lose her.
Good luck and (((HUGS!)))!
:( I'm so sorry for you!! Lots of hugs to you and the fiancee! I had to put down a beloved bunny last year so I can relate. Some things can't be fixed (she had broken her back and was paralyzed from the bunny chest down) and putting them down is the most humane option, as much as it's the last thing you really want to do. Although I'd never want to hurt my baby in anyway, it would have been selfish to make her suffer so that I could have her around longer. I'm sure your wedding will be lovely anyways, and your pup will be there in spirit.
Awww, that is so sad. I hope that you will still be able to enjoy your wedding! Your pup will be there in spirit, for sure!
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So sorry, SC 
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We had to put our dog down last week, because his health was failing due to bone cancer. It was very VERY hard to say goodbye, but I felt a sense of peace when he passed, and was relieved that he was no longer suffering. (I wrote about it in my blog, and am including the link below to that post - just trust me when I tell you to take the time to read it and the comments - I think it will make you feel better. His foster mom sent me an e-mail about her experience as we put Sami down, and I included that in an update because it meant so much to us and made us feel better.)
My heart goes out to you, your FH, and your doggy. She is going to a better place. I know what you're feeling, or will be feeling in the next coming days - the tears and emotions will well up, and then you'll laugh at your happy memories with her, and then be sad that she is gone. But you too will feel relief in knowing she is no longer in pain. I found it much harder to let him go and say my goodbye's his last few days, mainly because I felt so much peace when he did pass, and I was as ready to let him go as I could be. (That didn't stop the tears though!)
Hugs to you. Lots of them.
What a horrible prognosis. You have a lot on your plate and this is a very sad outcome. I would take your beautiful pup and her xrays to the nearest no-kill rescue. Give her the chance be taken on by a special individual or family that can deal with the challenges that your sweet companion presents. We've taken on dogs with medical issues that others might not be willing to deal with because of my skill set.
Catch has an eye problem that requires intensive treatment and the risk of becoming a blind dog, but that is a risk we're willing to take.
Hang in there... I'm wishing you and your pup the best.
I am very sorry.
(((hugs))))
However, I can't believe your vet is actually encouraging euthanizing this dog. Honestly, I would see a different vet. If you get an identical prognosis then you know you made the right decision. However, if you find out a week from now or 6 months from now, that the dog could have lived 10 happy and pain free years, I'd imagine you'd feel even more devestated.
I realize it your dog and your choice. I am sorry this is happening to such a young dog.
I'm so sorry to hear about your sad diagnosis for your dog. I hope that you'll consider DoctorGirl's suggestion, though. We also adopted a dog who had been given up due to health issues, and it was the most rewarding thing we've ever done.
Good luck, whatever you choose.
I would get a second opinion also.
My first vet gave me lots of "information" about ringworm. How i had to come back, spend money, give him the expensive medication and in the end, it may do NOTHING to fix him. I got sick and tired of him being so sick all the time. Poor miserable sick kitty, right? I went to another vet that my boss recommended. 6 months later, healthy kitty. I know ringworm is not a dislocated knee, but I'm trying to tell you that I basically saw another vet and it changed my perspective. I went from being depressed for over 6 months regarding this to being hopeful and happy. I had been told I should put him down by my parents. Hope is a powerful thing, and sometimes another vet has ideas to fix things. It's the same with doctors, right? You'd see another doctor if the first one didn't tell you what you wanted to hear? Heck you'd probably see 4 before it started to sink in that you'd run out of choices.
It doesn't hurt, it's only $35 for the vet fee. Sometimes the right vet makes all the difference. Your vet didn't say anything about braces for your dog or possibly pinning her knee together?
I don't get it. People get dislocated bones and they manage to fix them. Why can't they pop your dogs' bones back in, pin them into place, and brace them so they heal better?
Maybe this is my lack of medical knowledge. Pre med only prepared me so far, but it seems so logical. I think there is an option out there for you to at the least consider.
Still, do what is right by you. You have to live with this decision and if you find peace in it, that's your choice. I hate the idea of a sweet little baby suffering. If something still doesn't sit 100% right with you, you have to acknowledge that little nagging voice. Lots of dogs live happy lives with 3 legs after car accidents, coyote maulings, etc. Will you and your fiance's love be enough for your little boy? I think so
I have been a veterinary technician for 12 years. I read the story of your dog and of course, it's impossible to know exactly what is going on with your dog without seeing her and the radiographs, but I thought I'd let you know what I think. The surgery that your vet is most likely talking about it an FHO or femoral head ostectomy. It is usually considered a salvage procedure, because it is alot cheaper than other options. Basically the "head" of the femur is cut off and made smooth, and the body, amazingly, forms a sort of fake joint in the muscle. Many dogs do remarkably well with this procedure. In fact, I adopted a dog that had been hit by a tractor and had multiple orthopedic procedures go badly, and we ended up having to do FHO's on both of her hips, and she did wonderful. No one without a veterinary background knew that something was wrong, and she was very comfortable. Your dog has multiple problems, and she is a large breed dog. However, I can tell you from experience that even though her other hip is dysplastic as well, she may compensate just fine after the pain she is experiencing with the bad hip right now is relieved. Also, it sounds like she has a luxating patella. Many dogs do not need surgery for this, and she may do ok after her hip pain is relieved. However, she will never be a "normal" dog, and will most certainly need pain medication lifelong to maintain her comfort level. Surgery on her other hip may also be necessary in the future. She is a young dog, and that helps. I will also mention that keeping any excess weight off her is essential. As many other people have mentioned, there are people out there who are willing to adopt "problem" dogs. Rescue organizations will often take them in, help them through their current issue, and find an appropriate home for them. I would encourage you to seek a second opinion as this a big decision. In the end, it is YOUR decision, and you have to do what you feel is right in your heart for you and your pet. I wish you the best in this difficult decision and in your marriage.
I would like to encourage you to get a second opinion as well.
My husband and I have an English bulldog... at 1 year of age, he was diagnosed with hip dysplasia in both hips. We consulted with an orthopedic specialist, who actually encouraged us to try non-surgical options first before considering surgery. After seeing the specialist, we started giving our dog daily glucosamine supplements [over-the-counter ones from Costco]. We also worked hard to get his weight down. It is now 1.5 years later, and our bulldog is doing so much better... no limping, increased mobility, and no signs of pain. We know that we may need to consider surgery for him down the road but, so far, the non-surgical options have made a huge difference for him.
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I'm so sorry...it's never an easy decision to make. I also agree maybe you can think about Doctorgirl's suggestion. Either way take care of yourself and I hope you make the best decision for your family...good luck!
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That was the second opinion
As much as I want her to be around forever, her quality of life won't improve. Even if we do surgery on both hips, she will still have to have pain meds.
We just don't want the dog hurting and she won't ever truely be better. It seems more humane to let her rest in peace instead of trying to keep her alive for our sake. We aren't the ones that will be in pain.
I know we're all starting to sound like broken records here, but please please please contact a rescue to see if they'll take him. Like doctorgirl said, you'd be surprised what a rescue is willing to deal with to give a dog a second chance.
I'm so sorry! I will say I think you're probably doing the right thing. I'm going to guess that a lot of the folks saying she'll be fine don't have "farm dogs." I know a number of dogs that would be miserable with just coping and pain management for the rest of their lives after having free range.
I had mentioned my mare that I had to put down earlier. She was in a similar situation, although she was older. Surgery had the potential to fix her but it was nowhere close to being guaranteed. In order to manage her pain and movement she had to be confined to a stall which sucked the will to live right out of her. Some horses do perfectly fine being pampered in a cushy stall but she wasn't one of them. Dogs are the same way.
Again, I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope things go well for you and your family.
Thanks for the kind words and advice bees. You guys are so thoughtful and caring!
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SO the vet called. Her left hip and knee cap are dislocated. He said we have three options.
First, surgery to get it to stay in place, which he said won't work.
Second another surgery where they would remove part of her hip, which would cause her to never fully put her weight on her left leg, which will make her right hip go bad too b/c she will place the majority of her weight on that leg.
Third, to give her pain meds, but her hoping on three legs will make her right hip go out eventually.
The reason her right hip will go out for options two and three is because she does have dysplasia in both hips already and he said her hips aren't very good. So any way we spin it, even if we surrender her, the surgeries won't fix it. They will cause more problems, and they dont even know if they can fix her knee cap.
So I do really have to bid her adieu. Tonight we are going to decide which day to put her down.
So thanks bees for all the support and well wishing, unfort. she didn't fair well.
on top of everything t minus ten days to wedding. yay.
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